Workin' for a livin'
October, 2006 |
Autism is a Special Interest
Now
March, 2005 |
Cognitive Work-Arounds
March, 2003 |
The Anatomy of a Freakout
June, 2006 |
Developing a cultural understanding
of autism.
June, 2004 |
These are a few of my favorite
stims
March, 2002 |
On the Illusion of Leadership
March, 2006 |
coming to terms with autism
March, 2004 |
What Kind Tree means to one autist
June, 2001 |
The nonverbal “language”
of obsessions
September, 2005 |
A weird autistic sensorium
September, 2003 |
Autism Research Report
December 2000 |
Autistic Pride Day
June, 2005 |
Autism Forum Summary
June, 2003 |
On Living With Autism
October 2000 |
Mary-Minn's Stim Page
(Here are personal stories about
autism. If you would like to see your musings on this page,
please email Mary-Minn at sirag@mindspring.com.)
Workin'
for a Livin'
1978 was a banner year for me in sheer quantity
of jobs held. That year, I blew through 12 jobs “like
they were Kleenex,” as my older brother put it. I was
living in Manhattan, studying life sculpture during evenings
at the Art Students’ League on West 57th Street, sharing
an apartment on the Upper East Side with my parasitic boyfriend
and making ends meet catch-as-catch-can.
The pinnacle of my career that year was waiting tables at
the Veracruz Spanish and Mexican restaurant, down the street
from the U.N. It was a mighty soft gig for the maladroit waitress
that I was. I’d show up at a leisurely 10:30 a.m., when
I and my counterpart, a chivalrous Mexican man, would set
to work scouring the bathrooms and setting up our stations
before getting to the paid work of waiting tables. Our choice
clientele of U.N. diplomats were pleasant, interesting to
talk to, easy to wait on, and generous with their tips.
"Health
and safety standards were quite beside the point at the Chocolate
Factory. Being germ phobic, I threw out the dropped chocolate
when nobody was looking. "
At the end of our shift, we employees would be treated to
a substantial and delicious Spanish and/or Mexican dinner,
com-plete with potent and flavorful margaritas. No matter
that I was paid a mingey $3 a day, for which I signed the
back of a check; no matter that I was forbidden to look at
the front of the check, which probably was written for a significantly
larger amount. Wages were merely a maraschino cherry perched
precariously atop the proverbial ice-cream sundae, as I made
as much in tips during those three hours as I would have been
paid as a full-time filing clerk in the dingy recesses of
Wall Street or a proofreader for an uptight fashion magazine
in midtown.
About three weeks into my employment, my fellow waiter mysteriously
failed to show up for work, but I managed to get my friend
hired in his stead. She was an elegant Iranian woman with
patrician manners, in stark contrast to scrawny, tweaky, fash-ion-dork
me. My boss was clearly impressed by her. She refused to clean
toilets; my boss reassured her that I could take up her slack,
no problem. I objected strenuously. I was not above cleaning
toilets, but it was the “principle” of having
to show up a half-hour early to do a junior co-worker’s
“dirty work.”
The following Monday, our entire kitchen staff had vanished
from the face of the kitchen. The I.N.S. had deported the
lot of them, as had probably befallen the waiter. That Monday
turned out to be the busiest day I had ever experienced at
that establishment. The line was 20 or so people long. Food
was a long time coming, as my boss was ill-equipped to keep
up with such a barrage of orders by himself. I reassured my
patient cus-tomers that there was a slight problem in the
kitchen, that I hadn’t forgotten their order. As usual,
they were patient and kind with me.
When the food was finally ready, my supervisor brought it
to them with a magnanimous flourish and yelled at me in front
of the whole dining room for being so slow on the uptake.
I shrieked back at him, again in full view and earshot of
the entire din-ing room, that the food had been delayed because
we were without a kitchen staff, and not due to any slowness
of mine. I added that he should consider hiring people with
legal visas next time, even if he had to pay them minimum
wage. I was fired the next day for insubordination.
It wasn’t the first or the last job from which I was
fired, for one reason or other. Back then, employment was
easy-come-easy-go. I canvassed door-to-door for work rather
than bothering with the voluminous classifieds and employment
agencies, with their nitpicking requirements for shorthand,
which I had never studied, and for fast and accurate typing,
which I wasn’t to master until the corrasable IBM Selectric
II erased my terror of typos and Liquid Paper.
Within a week, I was working retail at a small “chocolatier”
deceptively named “The Chocolate Factory” on Canal
Street, back then a sleazy no-zone between the Bowery and
Wall Street. The boss was a questionable fellow named Alan
Silver, whom I renamed “Alan Silverfish.”
We employees shared a delirious, delicious and well-deserved
contempt for the Silverfish, but I was the only one with the
“guts” to call him that to his face, as though
my vocal disapproval could reform him, thereby making the
world a friendlier and safer microcosm. Self-righteous “honesty”,
above all, was a guiding principle for me back then.
The Silverfish pretended to be a chocolatier, rather than
the mere purveyor of low-grade chocolate he was. To prove
his nonexistent culinary expertise, he had placed a small
saucepan with some somewhat dusty melted Hersheys atop a hot
plate in a small closet at the back of the store. In reality,
the chocolate he sold was imported, from across the Hudson
River–Brooklyn, to be exact. We were instructed to tear
down the chocolate boxes so that nobody could see their origin.
Whenever we needed something that our Brooklyn supplier didn’t
carry, the Silverfish would send Claire, the prettiest and
calmest among us, to trade shows under an independent guise,
as none of the other chocolate suppliers would have any financial
dealings with Mr. Silver. Claire must have been one smooth
talker to get into those trade shows without a wholesalers’
license.
I took great pride in my ability to estimate weight precisely
to the ounce. Seeing this, my boss ordered me to overweigh
by a quarter pound, so as to sell more chocolate than the
customer had ordered. Sure enough, most customers didn’t
notice the slightly larger quantity I had “misweighed,”
but it chafed at my autistic love of precision.
New York City was still recovering from a long garbage strike.
“No spitting” signs adorned the streets and subway
stations, and for good reason. When chocolate fell on the
floor, we were instructed to dust it off and put it back in
the case. Health and safety standards were quite beside the
point at the Chocolate Factory. Being germ phobic, I threw
out the dropped chocolate when nobody was looking.
The store had a basement and sub-basement out of an early
Stephen King novel, inhabited by tomcat-sized rats with sharp
incisors and eyes that flashed red when the lighting was just
dingy enough. Claire and I were charged with penetrating these
sub-terranean reaches to retrieve the second-hand heart-shaped
boxes festooned with battle-fatigued ribbons. Those hastily
assembled, ratty boxes were just another of love’s cruelties.
Every so often, Mr. Silver exhibited great generosity by sending
me out to an excellent little Chinese deli to fetch low-mein
for his crew. Those evenings, my till would come out $20 or
so short, which was a prodigious shortfall, considering that
the average purchase was $3.
A few days after a hectic Valentines Day, I gave notice to
my boss. Shocked that I not only had shown up for work that
day but had given him notice, Silverfish gave me a severance
bonus, plus a bag of chocolates. The bonus added up to the
amounts he had deducted from my pay for “over rings.”
And so, it was my turn to be shocked.
Mary-Minn Sirag
The
anatomy of a freakout
The first day after being
ill is wonderful, indeed. My senses are alert without being
too sharp. My brain can follow a logical pattern again. The
temperature outside not only is perfect, but feels perfect.
Colors are bright, and spring smells sweet again. I am well
rested, after 12 or so hours of sleep, and I could eat a house
if only a realtor would give me one to chaw on. My body is
clear of aches and pains.
My illness was a four-month
flood of high anxiety, depression and freakouts that crested
just last night with a skin-crawling darkness of the soul.
It started out insidiously as my customary winter depression.
"I lost
my ability to anticipate, recognize and ward off my Confusion
Triggers. "
My brain receptors had become immune to the antidepressant
I was taking, rendering it useless. I felt too delicate to
embark on yet another series of biochemical experiments before
hitting on another antidepressant that would hold me until
the next crash. Putting this off was my first big mistake.
A friend of mine had successfully diminished
a recent trauma of her own with a five-session course of EMDR
rapid-eye movement cognitive therapy treatments, which heartened
me. I determined that I too could weaken my own freakout triggers
with a course of EMDR, since my triggers are specific: losing
things, getting lost, and not knowing what I am supposed to
do in any given moment. I had even figured out the specific
experiences leading up to my triggers. Thinking that five
sessions of EMDR would fix me was my second mistake.
In a metaphoric and less than scientifically
rigorous nutshell, the rapid eye movement, by stimulating
both sides of the brain almost simultaneously, rearranges
trauma-induced neural pathways that are activated by stimuli
the patient associates with the trauma. The goal is to scramble
these pathways sufficiently to disentangle the multitude of
triggers from the initial trauma. Later on in the process,
reintegration supposedly occurs after the brain has formed
new pathways that are squeaky-clean of the trauma and its
ramifying surrogates.
The therapist provides the patient with a safe
venue to revisit these traumas as the patient’s eyes
track the therapist’s rapid back-and-forth hand movements.
After helping me to come up with comforting images to keep
in mind, my therapist told me to relax and follow my thoughts.
My first serious obstacle was that relaxation is a state of
being that is every bit as elusive to me as spiritual enlightenment.
My second obstacle was my extreme defensiveness about opening
my being to my traumas. Though I can ruminate about them endlessly,
voluntarily re-experiencing them in a therapeutic context
is a whole other matter. My third obstacle was my innate suspicion
of professionals, even when I’m giving it my college
best to be open-minded.
During the sessions, however hard I tried to revisit these
traumas of mine, my attention settled instead on comforting
stimuli–the reassuring tock of a mechanical clock, the
bells at St. Mary’s Episcopal Church that reminded me
of church bells in the village of my childhood, the warming
click of the baseboard heater, even a bus changing gears,
so reminiscent of cross-country Greyhound bus trips I took
during college. My therapist was astonished at how many mechanical
sounds I took refuge in. She clearly wasn’t the John
Cage fan that I am. Meanwhile, the trauma I was trying so
hard to reframe evaded my conscious grasp.
Alas, the therapy was worse for me than merely
ineffectual. As promised, my brain felt scrambled for a few
weeks, which was initially reassuring, as something seemed
to be happening. The awful part, though, was that it never
unscrambled completely to reintegrate its moorings, so my
triggers became more random and unpredictable than before.
Perhaps the requisite five expensive treatments were insufficient
for my slow processing of information; however, by then, I
was done with throwing good money–and time–after
bad.
My mental health cascaded from there. My anxiety
worsened from mere agitation and nervousness to a pervasive
sense of im-pending doom and wrenched anguish. Daily, I awoke
in a cold sweat of panic and foreboding, dreading the day’s
unfolding. Premoni-tions of death loomed as I got behind the
wheel, and my mind perseverated on near-accidents. My skin
crawled as though trafficked by tiny vermin. My brain felt
ready to pop out of its skull. My innards clenched. Things
I had said reverberated back at me days later in a hollow
mockery of my voice. My heart raced as though my veins were
going to explode. I felt windswept from the inside. I developed
a gripping and galloping-stampede social phobia. During the
last week of my crisis, my anxiety culminated in a low-grade
fever that kept me unpleasantly hot, though the ambient temperature
was pleasantly cool. Toward the very end of my long episode,
I craved solitude but couldn’t stand to be alone.
I lost the ability to keep things properly
organized for myself, which fed one of my two worst freakout
triggers: losing things. I couldn’t remember where I
had–or even should–put things. My visual processing
and sense of direction deteriorated, as did my problem-solving
and troubleshooting ability. For instance, I often neglected
to check the phone book and my various street maps before
venturing out into even slightly uncharted reaches, thinking
that “everything is going to be alright.” I forgot
to eat frequently enough, rendering me woozy, irrational and
irascible. Though I continued to print out my checklists for
leaving the house in the morning, I glossed over important
checkpoints and neglected to close important loops I had opened,
such as strapping my keys to my right-hand pocket in order
to keep myself safely attached to them.
During this four-month period, my freakouts
increased in frequency and intensity as I lost my ability
to anticipate, recognize and ward off my confusion triggers.
Each freakout left me raw and vulnerable to even worse subsequent
ones. They evolved from fits of obscene ranting and high-decibel
shrieking at my frozen-up computer; to stapling my wrist,
cross-hatching one arm with a serrated knife and bruising
the other with the clenched fist of the first hand; to a stomping
and shrieking rage of frustration and confusion-panic at a
dear friend and her family due to an unreasoned assumption
I had made in a state of hypoglycemic exhaustion.
My friend and her family accepted my abject
apology. I then dissected and analyzed my recent hell with
her, other friends and family. In place, yet again, are my
protocols of prevention: When my brain is slower than the
world around it, I am to request a smokeless break to sort
and map things out in my mind, to look up the address in the
phone book and the exact coordinates on a map. Whenever I
leave the house, I am to pack plenty of nourishing protein
to fuel my brain. Whenever I feel that hazard bubble ascending
from my gut to my brain, I am to stop and figure out what
my spider sense is trying to tell me.
As the egg man at the Marin County farmers’
market told my sister, “Don’t be too hard on yourself.”
Mary-Minn Sirag
Mary-Minn's
Stim Page March, 2006
(Here are personal
stories about autism. If you would like to see your musings
on this page, please email Mary-Minn at sirag@mindspring.com.)
Before I “came out”
with my autism by joining the autism community in late summer,
2000, I wanted nothing more than to be given a chance to be
a Leader. I wanted to spearhead everything from activities
to movements, though I had no specific mission at that point.
All I needed was the authority to lead–or so I thought.
After all, I argued with no one in particular, I was good
at giving feed-back without being judgmental or critical.
The school of hard knocks had taught me not to be a micro-manager.
I had chutzpah. I was fearless about taking responsibility
for my mistakes and learning from them. What more did a good
leader need?
True, I had freakouts, but only when things got out of control.
Granted, I have always been burdened by a stratospheric standard
of “control.” Nonetheless, all I needed to do
was to front-load complex tasks so as not to set my “team”
up to fail by piling on too much at the last moment. It was
a matter of logistics.
"My
frequent brushes with failure in group activities had been
due almost invariably to others’ unenlightened leadership,
or so I thought."
I had written procedure and training manuals, and designed
elaborate work-flow systems as a paranoid precaution against
the chaos and error rate that led to so much blame and dissension
within those harried ranks I was inhabiting.
In the meantime, I had avoided positions of genuine leadership.
Resisting a painfully intense reproductive urge, I had chosen
to forgo starting a family, for fear of finding myself unable
to provide for them financially or to survive the poverty
that my unremark-able wage-earning ability might impose on
my hapless offspring. I had felt righteously responsible in
my decision rather than fearful, as I truly was.
I had turned down one or two opportunities for minor promotions
on the job–out of modesty, I told myself. I had avoided
com-mittees for supposedly esthetic reasons. The word “committee”
was not euphonious to me.
My frequent brushes with failure in group activities had been
due almost invariably to others’ unenlightened leadership,
or so I thought. Back then, I could have written books on
leadership, because I felt omniscient about what bad leadership
looked like from my enlightened perspective.
It is a cliché that the hardest lessons come from having
one’s own deepest wishes fulfilled. I have learned that
if I want some-thing badly enough, it will come to pass eventually.
Applied effort coupled with intense desire will bring about
just any desired out-come, I have found. Like just about everything,
this is a double-edged sword.
Ever since college, I wanted to repay a debt to my grandmother
for her brilliantly intuitive early intervention, which had
saved me from The Institution, where they put autistic children
like myself back in the ‘50’s. I knew not how
I was going to repay this debt, but serving the autism community
remained an inchoate ambition of mine, even as I was posing
as neuronormal.
Meantime, my deluded bubble of thought and action started
to crumble in my late 40’s, as I started to look my
age, and my matu-rity lagged behind my fading youthfulness
and alleged promise. I had less and less use for anger and
hard feelings, as both had stopped fueling me back in my 20’s.
My chutzpah started to give way to an uneasy surrender to
uncertainty and responsibility for what had gone wrong.
Meantime, more and more had been written about autism, which
gave me new courage to embark on the long process of coming
to terms with its profound implications. Light bulbs blew
out and then were replaced and screwed back into luminescence
as I found names for what had hampered me in my many aborted
leadership attempts. I started to recognize my critical lack
of “joint attention” in group situations: my flouncing
out of a meeting during my senior year of high school because
the teacher leading our group had wanted the play our committee
was writing to be more serious and less “satirical”;
my inability to keep focused and calm during meet-ings without
sketching frantically.
My “brilliance” with imposing work flow on my
co-workers became manifestly a desire to keep things autistically
regulated. I had been dogmatic about my methodology, as it
was the only way I could navigate complex projects. After
a while, I would drive my supervisors nuts, which would crescendo
us into snarly beak clashings. Eventually, they got the better
of me–alas and not alas!–and off with my head
in that particular context.
Back to square one, the want ads, and my subsequent agonies
finding work conventional enough to pay my keep.
Meantime, a local eclectic and intuitive massage therapist
threw me into KindTree. Leadership opportunities opened up,
for the first time ever and quite by surprise. I suddenly
felt unworthy as any kind of leader. At the same time, I acquired
minor leadership po-sitions in my various joblets, and found
myself daunted by the responsibility and the terror of making
critical mistakes.
Starting to recognize how one-dimensional and slow my brain
processing really is, I started to ask for help with my sudden
over-loads, internal shutdowns and jarring panic attacks that
continue to stalk me. Leadership now is more like being buoyed
by my com-rades than marching ahead of the troops fearlessly.
Trying to lead with my gaping holes in executive function
deficits suggests a big question: is it even possible?
I function much better as a task-oriented work horse. As in:
Detail oriented. Friendly and sociable. Strong sense of fairness.
Col-laborative. Honest. (Not to be confused with: Thinks well
on nimble cat feet. Shrewd. Independent. Big-picture person.
Ambitious but cautious. Quick study. The strong, silent type.)
What expertise I have is strictly preventive, for mitigating
and minimizing real-time problem-solving situations, during
which I freeze or explode.
After being expelled by the job market, I took refuge in KindTree,
which became my role model as well as safe haven and an im-mense
“skill set” from which to draw. I observe and
work alongside experienced and talented leaders, hoping to
absorb some of their wisdom in action. It has taken me a while
to catch on to how much kinder this field is than were the
mercenary trades where I spent too many years. Had I only
known this, I would have come out much sooner with my autism.
Mary-Minn Sirag
Mary-Minn's
Stim Page September, 2005
(Here are personal
stories about autism. If you would like to see your musings
on this page, please email Mary-Minn at sirag@mindspring.com.)
The
nonverbal “language” of obsessions
Obsessive-compulsive disorder often accompanies autism. The
benign OCD that I “suffer from” has taken on different
forms, most of them downright soothing, except for my almost
unslakable need to process certain inter-personal things to
death.
I don’t remember having any disabling repetitive rituals,
just strange obsessions and compulsions, which have evolved
over the years. As I all-too-slowly matured, I learned to
talk myself out of some of the more self-de-feating ones by
labeling them out of existence.
When I was five or six, I became obsessed with infinity. I
lay awake trying to bisect the–infinite, I had been
told–universe. Perhaps this infinity of mine was inspired
by the immense Iowa sky. I remember trying in vain to render
the bisecting blade long or wide enough to touch the edges,
of the edgeless infinity in my imagination. I hadn’t
read Poe’s “The Pit and the Pendulum,” but
my own blade presaged my later reading about his. Both blades
cut chilling figures in my imagination, like the razor blade
cutting the eyeball in the opening scene of Dali and Buñuel’s
film, The Andalusian Dog (which image was to obsess me in
college).
"My
compulsions slowly evolved into strange mental obsessions."
At age seven, after I moved to Lebanon with my family, I acquired
a “demon” who prompted me to do cer-tain phobic
things, such as sniffing vomit, touching something disgusting
or saying something obviously inoppor-tune, even cruel. This
demon of mine was a phobic compulsion, not a religious apparition.
I knew it was a silly figment, but it took me almost a decade
to shake my compulsion to follow its tyrannical directives.
In 8th grade, my demon compelled me to tattle on my science
class. (That was the only time that I can re-member tattling,
ever.) Our class was having a party. I even enjoyed parties,
if for no other reason than the treats and the reprieve from
the academic grind. The principal stopped in and asked us
what was going on. He seemed to want the reassurance of a
white lie, not a confession of such a petty misdemeanor. Nonetheless,
I felt compelled against my will to tell him. Regulations
forced him to forbid it. He seemed pained to lower the boom.
Though I already had become the outcast I was to remain through
tenth grade, my tattling served no purpose whatsoever; perhaps
it was a perverse pang of over-wrought autistic conscience.
Throughout my childhood, I was fixated on heights and flying.
I jumped into gravel and sand pits, even off of small cliffs.
I sprained my ankle once from jumping into a gravel pit, but
was too embarrassed and afraid of get-ting in trouble to divulge
my foolish accident to a soul. However, I did not enjoy jumping
from one high place to another for fear of falling. I needed
to time my freefall.
My compulsions slowly evolved into strange mental obsessions.
Through my teen years, images of animals or weird associations
attached themselves to certain people I knew. I remember convulsing
in uncontrollable and inappropriate laughter for hours over
these private jokes of mine. Later on, I started to feel guilty
about my cheap thrills at the expense of these people, so
I trained my mind to stop amusing itself in this way. I think
my moralism had everything to do with my autism.
In about ninth grade, I learned about the Law of Conservation.
Living in dread of misfortune, I replaced mat-ter and energy
with good luck and bad luck. In my interpretation of this
Law, a run of good luck would be fol-lowed by an equal run
of bad luck. Value could be quantified in intensity or duration,
so one extremely propitious event–say–could be
followed by a longer run of mediocre bad luck. The runs had
to be equivalent in what I (mathematically inaccurately) dubbed
“absolute value,” which was a Heisenberg-ish duality
of duration and inten-sity. Life comprised a karmic succession
of runs. I came to dread good luck, because it would be followed
by an equally valued run of bad luck. Many years later, I
explained this to the man who later became my husband. He
compared my notion to gambler’s ruin, which very name
emancipated me from the bond of this odious obsession. Names
are potent talismans. I abhor euphemism partly because it
emasculates the magic of language.
In college I treasured–and still do–a couple of
nifty esthetic fixations: on desolate industrial areas, steam
power-generating plants with immense colorful piping, engine
rooms, commercial shipyards, trains going under bridges, and
grain elevators, especially those that rise up out of nowhere
on flat prairie. These fill me with the same kind of crown-tingling
awe as do the Grand Canyon or the Parthenon.
I love to walk around in deserted warehouse districts, especially
those ancient warehouses with long grids of windows on all
sides. Seeing windows–or their light shadows–within
windows gives me a joyful frisson.
One of the beauties of David Lynch’s black-and-white
cult classic Eraserhead, which I have watched 12 times, is
its Midwestern Rust Belt industrial atmosphere. My brother
John shares my love of this particular esthet-ic, and coined
the word “colodryl” for it.
From the time I was five, I was spooked by horizontal ovals,
especially those in the arches of dingy stucco porches in
Iowa. I think they reminded me of the stretched out grimace
of the Goony Man, the peeping-tom villain in my scariest nightmare
ever, when I was five. During college, over a decade later,
I would walk by a certain “malignant” house at
night to test my grip over this primordial fear of mine.
I am somewhat of a connoisseur of graphic logos. Ovals are
so expressive, and can run the gamut between uplifting and
mocking, depending on their angular proportions. On the other
hand, I find myself wincing at those partial ellipses on drug
and telecommunication logos, whose euphemistic triteness lend
a totalitarian feel to mod-ern billboards and truck panels.
I have noticed that my various obsessions reach peaks of intensity
and then wane gradually after awhile, which can be anywhere
from years to decades. The pleasant ones fade from overexposure,
much as the poignancy of a particular musical recording lessens
after I “burn it out” by listening to it over
and over again.
My more menacing obsessions require the antidote of
verbal analysis.
Mary-Minn Sirag
Mary-Minn's
Stim Page June, 2005
(Here are personal
stories about autism. If you would like to see your musings
on this page, please email Mary-Minn at sirag@mindspring.com.)
I write this on June
18, 2005, which is none other than Autistic Pride Day,
a glorious day redolent with thunder, lightning, dou-ble rainbows
with intercalaries, cloud formations and shadow play. Mark
this day on your calendars next year, if you haven’t
already.
I’d be attending a
choir party tonight or discussing philosophy in some dank
church basement if my life were the same as it was before
coming out with my autism almost five years ago. Contrary
to the DSM stereotype, I, like so many autists I know, am
extremely social. Being a social autist forces more personal
growth than staying true to the asocial stereotype–so
untrue to my very nature.
“I
doubted my ability to contribute anything useful.”
Though I have never been a joiner, my bent for performing
and artistic interaction has forced me into too many group
situations. I am more collaborative than competitive or aloofly
self-sufficient; besides, I have never been accomplished–or
brazen–enough in my piano playing or singing to perform
solo in front of a willing audience.
(Ed. Note - Mary-Minn did perform a solo harmonica piece at
this year’s Shy Person’s Talent Show.)
Until five years ago, I
earned my financial keep in conventional corporate settings,
with all the competitive stress. Again, my bad employment
choices reflected my lack of executive function to fashion
a more suitable career, without pre-existing organizational
un-derpinnings. Lacking the concept of executive function
exemplified by this deficiency of mine, I was ashamed of the
spectacularly au-tistic dichotomy between certain “splinter
skills” of mine and my inability to cobble them together
into anything useful. I wondered if I might be living down
my “retarded” diagnosis from 1957, after all.
Being labeled “retarded” at any age leaves its
psychological resi-due.
Group dynamics were torture
for me. Much of this was due to my faulty joint attention,
my inability to walk the conversational tightrope between
listening and talking that comprises turn taking. (Until this
winter, I was mistaking “joint attention” for
a knuckle cracking obsession, which fits me equally well.)
This inability became all the more poignant in conversation.
My enthusiastic me toos with their verbose rejoinders would
alienate all too many of my interlocutors. Many of those who
chose to overlook these faux pas were put off by my astringent
defensiveness toward any patronizing or trite replies to my.
Being silent turned out to be my smartest option. Being one
to prefer private silence required me to quit these groups.
That was way before I gave myself permission to rein in my
energy and ground myself by drawing, but that is a whole other
longwinded story.
In July of 2000, I was working as an enumerator for the Census
Bureau and writing for two agricultural journals. Meantime,
my health was misbehaving, so I was seeing too many holistic
practitioners. I was just starting to divulge to these well-meaning
folks that I am autistic, in the off chance that one of them
would have some simple and pleasant panacea for all that ailed
me.
On my Census rounds, I happened
on a massage therapist, who told me about KindTree, and promptly
foisted me on them. I was afraid of being rejected from yet
another group, this time for being insufficiently autistic.
Furthermore, I had lost all confidence in my group skills,
so I doubted my ability to contribute anything useful.
But it was too late. Tim, Nel, Michelle, Melissa and Steve–KindTree’s
board of directors–invited me over for dinner. Kindred
spirits they were. I regaled them with my life story, and
they not only didn’t flinch but seemed to find me entertaining
and amusing, though doubtless a bit odd. They invited me to
be their first autistic speaker at their upcoming autism retreat,
two weeks hence.
I was clinically phobic of
public speaking. By “clinical,” I am referring
to out-of-body, profuse sweating and flushing, dizzy, nauseated
and near-death panic. At the various philosophical discussion
groups I had attended with my husband, I would dispatch my
turns unceremoniously with speedily terse statements while
other people would wax grandiloquent in their august profundities,
or, like my husband, utter a few insightful, cogent and eagerly
awaited gems.
I also had gone to a couple
of support groups for my various afflictions and problems,
only to worry myself even sicker after-wards about my bad
performance.
My first talk at that retreat
was atrociously bad, but mitigated for me by the indulgent
kindness of my hosts and the other autists. My poignant embarrassment
about my bad talk was palliated by my spiritual experience
of that first retreat, where I met my first au-tists, also
kindred spirits. I cried all the way home, from a joy born
of liberation to come. Those who know me would probably agree
that I’m averagely sentimental, not particularly lugubrious
or weepy. When I do cry, it’s generally out of despair
rather than tender emotions.
From then on, I could not
wrest myself from KindTree. I was hooked. There was no getting
rid of me, by tactful or other means. And nobody even tried!
The magic was everywhere; KindTree was atwitter with romance
and friendship, starting with Michelle and Steve’s romance
that had birthed KindTree’s first retreat, in 1996;
out of this retreat, the rest of KindTree has flowed. Michelle
and Melissa, who were to marry four years later, had met at
the retreat the previous year. Tim and Nel, who married the
same year as Mi-chelle and Melissa, had met at the Developmental
Disability (DD) in-service, conceiving KindTree’s monthly
autism support group, in response to an Aspy in the audience.
Nel’s support group
has bred many autistic friendships, including many of my own.
Two of my friends met at a retreat planning committee last
year, and have been “peas in a pod” (their expression,
not mine) ever since.
Our newsletter has enriched our autism scene by attracting
friends from northerly reaches. From these friendships has
come a group of folks that calls itself the “Autism
Movers and Shakers,” comprised of folks along the I-5
corridor who meet monthly at Kwan’s Chinese Restaurant
in Salem to chew the visionary fat. PAGE 3 Anybody who wants
to join us can email me at Sirag@mindspring.com
or call me at (541) 689-2228.
Our little nonprofit’s
breeding proclivities compensate handsomely for my own lack
of breeding or human progeny. It has helped spawn activities
and organizations, as well as individual relationships. Bridgeway
House was born in October of 2002, five months after the parent
panel at KindTree’s first Autism Forum. We also caught
up with Nan Lester’s Asperger Advocacy Coalition, which
not only has cracked open Eugene’s 4J School District
to Aspies, but, in the process, has catalyzed many friendships
among autists across generations, family members and professionals.
Nan Lester has started a monthly Asperger issues discussion
group for Aspies.
This past year, our various collaborative non-profits came
together to form a Lane County Chapter of the Autism Society
of Ore-gon, with a monthly adult autists’ activity group
that meets to do anything from trout fishing to miniature
golfing, and a professional development committee. The magic
is in the air.
Mary-Minn Sirag
Mary-Minn's
Stim Page March, 2005
(Here are personal
stories about autism. If you would like to see your musings
on this page, please email Mary-Minn at sirag@mindspring.com.)
Autism has become
a pervasive topic lately, leading to increased public
awareness, both informative and misleading. The very topic
has evolved into a veritable “special interest”
in the media.
This is quite a contrast to 1987, when I started to educate
myself about my autism by paying a visit to the University
of Iowa Psychiatric Hospital, where my grandparents had taken
me 47 years prior for regular checkups to see if I was ready
to return to my parents and siblings, who were living in Beirut.
After a short meeting with one of the psychiatrists who had
seen me as a small nonverbal child, I asked the hospital to
send me my psychiatric records from that time. I received
a smattering of notes from various childhood visits. The psychiatrist,
then retired and in his 80s, wrote that he saw no more evidence
of my autism, though he noted my “quick, bird-like gestures”
and nervousness.
“I
held my Dirty Little Secret of being autistic
close to the vest”
At the time, I had met no
other autists, let alone autistic adults. I had heard of my
mother’s autistic nephew, who died in an institution
shortly thereafter. My mother told me about a younger second-cousin
(a nonverbal woman) from the same branch of my family tree.
That summer, I scoured our nearest public library (in Santa
Rosa, California) for more information about autism. During
that period, I read Oliver Sacks’ Annals of Medicine
about Temple Grandin in The New Yorker, to which I was subscribing.
Back then, there were precious few books written on autism,
at least in Santa Rosa’s small public library. Temple
Grandin had not yet written Emergence: Labeled Autistic. Most
of what I was able to glean was in Science News, the only
science journal there, so I was relegated to short articles
on atrophied amygdalae and cerebella.
I submitted an article to Redbook about my “triumph”
over autism. I figured that if I was living independently,
it was because I was no longer autistic. I felt simultaneously
blessed and amazingly clever. Red-book expressed interest
in my query, but, fortunately for me, rejected my stiffly
written manuscript. I was not ready to go public with the
fact that I had been autistic. Something told me that I still
was, I guess, and I needed community support to deal with
that. I continued to stick to my vow, from when I was five,
that I would no longer be autistic. This resolution of mine
turned out to be about as effective as my wishing away the
mole on my neck in second grade, by rubbing it while intoning
in Draculan tones, “I wish the mole would go away. I
wish the mole would go away.”
For the next 13 years, I held my dirty little secret of being
autistic close to the vest. I limped along, holding it together
until my weirdness started to catch up with me yet again,
at which time I’d find myself yet again pulled into
back offices at whatever job I was doing and chatted to about
my disruptive outbursts under stress, my strange lack of eye
contact, my inability to be casually friendly and businesslike
at the same time, my strange slowness in learning seemingly
simple procedures despite my aptitude for learning more conceptual
information.
A young co-worker at my last corporate job (a printing and
pub-lishing company) had a son who had just been diagnosed
autistic. In an attempt to assure her that autism is not a
death sentence (“Witness me, after all!”), I divulged
to her that I am autistic. This reserved woman was visibly
taken aback by my confession. She admitted to having noticed
something “different” about me, and shuddered
a little at the prospect of her precious son turning out like
this maladroit copy editor on the swing shift. My intention
had been to inspire hope, not strike terror in this young
mother’s heart! Nor was this the last time I was to
meet with such disappointment, even from fellow autists, who
assured me–and themselves–that they aren’t
so “severely affected” as I. I have finally learned
to hold back on my sage advice!
For four years after this confession, I managed somehow to
hold it together like the little Dutch boy at the dyke until
my various weirdnesses would start rupturing my valiant attempts
at quick-witted charm and high-energy mellowness. I’d
start each job trying to impress my co-workers with how very
together I “really” am, only to slide into despair
when the battle fatigue of my efforts started to wear down
my brittle defenses and scrape the scabs from my petty traumas.
In 2000, while enumerating for Census 2000, I told my massage
therapist about my autism, as I had started doing with my
alternative-medicine “providers,” in the oft chance
that they might have some insight into it. She told me about
KindTree Productions, a grass-roots autism nonprofit that
she thought could use my skills. I had my serious doubts,
about my usefulness in society and my ability to work in any
kind of group, even the “autism community.” Above
all, I was terrified of rejection by “people like me.”
Just for starters, what if I wasn’t autistic enough?
Refusing to broach my many cop-outs, she foisted me on the
board members, who not only tolerated me, but turned out to
be kindred spirits. Michelle, Steve, Tim and Melissa invited
me to speak at the retreat two weeks later. There I met my
first fellow autists. It was a profound coming-home for me.
For the next year or two, as I got more involved with KindTree
and then the larger autism community, I annoyed my pre-KindTree
friends with my sudden “obsession” with autism,
which bordered on messianic, I guess.
My connections in the autism community, meanwhile, brought
me into contact with employers who saw my experience with
being autistic as an asset in working with other autists and
in the DD community. I accepted that I had a disability, and
signed on with Voc. Rehab. My counselor helped me draft a
self-employment plan for back-book indexing, and then connected
me with some peer mentoring work. My various new employers
worked with me in managing my freakouts, helped me work out
subroutines to compensate for my difficulties with executive
function and thinking on my feet, and salved my eroded self-esteem
by helping me to discern and work with my sometimes elusive
abilities. I discovered skills, in particular certain offbeat
people skills, I had let myself be convinced were beyond me.
I discovered new lines of work.
As I gained confidence and perspective into the many shades
of autism, I became a little less strident in my “message,”
so I was able to start “educating” not only people
in the autism community, but those who had known me before
I “was autistic.” For the first time ever, people
valued my opinion and experience enough to ask me to give
presentations. This helped me to overcome my worst phobia–besides
dropping, spilling and losing things–that of public
speaking.
I am finding a place in the autism community, just in time
to escape from an increasingly lean-and-mean business arena
that is being downsized and outsourced. I am hoping to help
build a refuge for those of us who don’t speak the corporate
dog-eat-dog lingo. Wish me luck on this one.
Mary-Minn Sirag
Mary-Minn's
Stim Page
(Here are personal stories about autism.
If you would like to see your musings on this page, please
email Mary-Minn at sirag@mindspring.com.)
Developing a cultural understanding
of autism. June 6, 2004
In August of 2000 I met my first fellow autists,
at KindTree’s autism retreat. My memory flashed on friends
who probably had been struggling with autism their entire
lives but didn’t know it. I say “struggling”
because living with autism without an autism community is
like living undercover in an alien culture.
My first autism retreat, where I was invited
to speak about my autism, was a spiritual awakening for me.
I was phobic of public speaking. Being an exhibitionist and
show-off did not make me a public speaker. Though I had acted
and sung solos from second grade through college, I could
not speak coherently in a group situation.
My first talk is veiled by a merciful amnesia.
I think I rambled and derailed a lot. Keeping on track while
keeping going--and in real-time, no less--was next to impossible
for me back then. Steve Brown, who was KindTree’s president
back then, had the sagacity to facilitate it the following
year, which made for a better talk.
Even more profound than my debut into public
speaking was meeting those first autists. I felt a telepathic
kinship with all the autists there, except one little boy
who was having difficulties.
Like many “new” autists, I was nervous
about being around “low functioning” autists.
Though, unlike many “higher functioning” autists,
I don’t remember being afraid of being lumped in with
the “lower functioning” ones, I wondered if I’d
know what to do with or say to them. I feared most being excluded
for not being autistic enough! I was to learn later that I
was not the only “new” autist to see myself as
uniquely “higher-functioning” and to hold inordinate
stock in my level of “functioning.”
What struck me during that retreat was not how
“high-functioning” I am in my hyper-verbosity,
but how variously functioned each of us is, in our human complexity.
(And that goes for normies as well as auties.) What matters
more than such measurables as IQ and “skill set”
are self-awareness and ability--and willingness--to advocate
for oneself.
I have become friends with other autists in
KindTree’s autism support group, which I have been attending
for the past four years. This support group is the first one
I have ever been able to stand, let alone derive any nourishment
from, both during and between meetings. It is crucial to have
a good facilitator, to keep discussion flowing. I find the
camaraderie of a good support group crucial to coming to terms
with any predicament or condition.
Before KindTree, I had always craved community
but become too disgusted and disillusioned with group dynamics
(“politics” I called it) to swing it. KindTree
not only tolerated my tweakiness but embraced me through my
freakouts and shut downs. This was the first group of people
who could work through conflict in a spirit of kind-hearted
adventurousness.
Through my involvement with KindTree, I landed
various human-service joblets -- teaching beading to adults
with developmental disabilities, conducting workshops for
Voc. Rehab. clients, and working with kids and adults on the
spectrum. Through helping these folks learn to accommodate
their disabilities and to advocate for themselves, I started
to learn to adminster to myself, as well. I started to see
some of my indelible “character flaws” as faulty
solutions to my cognitive and sensory scrambling. I am learning
to apply my logic to these difficulties of mine.
I had always wanted to be useful without being
exploited and taken for granted, but got precious few strokes
for my efforts until I got involved with KindTree and then
the autism community. Part of this is that prior to KindTree,
much of my time was focused on things that were next to impossible
for me--my disabilities, as it were--not on my talents. My
self-esteem was so eclipsed by these seemingly insurmountable
shortcomings that I was hard-pressed to see any talent in
myself.
Since becoming involved in KindTree and in other
reaches of the autism community, I have been learning how
to work around my limitations and better exploit what abilities
I do have. I am developing a cultural understanding of autism.
March
2004
(Personal stories about autism. If you
would like to see your musings on this page, please email
Mary-Minn at sirag@mindspring.com.)
coming to terms
with autism
When I was five, I vowed no longer to be autistic.
My momentous decision took place in kindergarten, during
the Christmas pageant. Though I was nonverbal at age 3,
when the pediatrician advised my mother to institutionalize
me and cut her losses, I must have fully understood what
he was telling her well enough to be ashamed of the dreaded
"a" word two years later.
For the next forty years, my autism was a
dirty secret I divulged, almost as a passing afterthought,
to only my closest friends and, much later, to parents of
newly diagnosed kids.
People they told either said I was making
it up, since I am not only verbal, but loquacious; or they
felt vindicated in their suspicions that I really am a little
off.
Whenever I alluded to my autism, it was always
in the past tense. That is not to say that I didn’t
secretly devour what little I could dig up about my "former"
condition, as a part of me must have known that autism doesn’t
just evaporate.
My third grade teacher must have known I was
autistic, though. She tried to control my disruptive behavior
by having her teacher’s pet reward my rare instances
of "good" behavior with gifts of pom-pom birds.
I resented her condescending special treatment, though I
liked the birds. Horrid though my "bad" behavior
must have been, I was not being rebellious; I couldn’t
help it.
I preferred my parents’ approach of
punishing me. At least, they weren’t singling me out
as defective.
I did not know how most of my problems were
due to the insidious pervasiveness of my autism. I erected
work-arounds, which enabled me to snow my way through secondary
school and college. Even though I crashed on jobs when forced
to multi-task or shift attention too much, I somehow managed
to keep enough people fooled to stay afloat until my mid
40s, when health problems tipped the precarious balance.
It was about then that a local massage therapist,
to whom I had confided my condition, told me about KindTree,
and foisted me upon them. My involvement with KindTree forced
me to come to terms with being chronically autistic.
The following years have been a dialectic
of coming to terms with this condition. In my own personal
development I see parallels to the civil rights movements
that have been unfolding in my lifetime.
I see my long period of denial as my "Uncle
Tom phase."
When I started to "come out," I
was afraid I’d have as little in common with other
autists as with every other group. Having researched what
I had seen as my "former" condition, I had an
intelligent lay person’s grasp of it. However, actually
meeting other autists for the first time, at KindTree’s
2000 Retreat, inspired and taught me way more. It was a
spiritual experience.
After a period of personally identifying with
my condition, I segued into an even more obnoxious period
of wanting to prove how relatively "high-functioning"
I was for having conned the world into taking me for no
more than an eccentric neurotic person. During high-functioning
interludes, I would wonder whether my autism was "serious"
enough even to count, and felt guilty for making such a
big deal out of such a trivial condition.
As I met more fellow autists and found out
more about "my" condition, I then went into a
blessedly brief "Black Power" phase of identifying
almost exclusively with other autists--and nobody else.
It took an unpleasant interaction with one or two of my
"own kind" to realize that I am no more a product
of this "group" as any other one.
Meantime, as I became more involved in the
autism community , my autistic shortcomings started to re-emerge
with a vengeance: my freakouts; difficulty with planning,
organizing and changing focus; face-blindness. I then knew
I am not an inadvertently fraudulent autist.
I am starting to grieve my autistic limitations--the
painful dichotomy between my intelligence and talents and
my functional limitations. I sometimes find myself desperately
seeking some ancillary mental illness to blame my problems
on. In more positive moments, I try to figure out ways to
outsmart it.
Mary-Minn Sirag
(Written
by autists about living with autism. If you would like
to see your musings on this page, please email Mary-Minn
at sirag@mindspring.com.)
A weird autistic
sensorium by Mary-Minn Sirag - September,
2003
Every
so often, I find myself whiffing the underside of my elbow
and the back of my hand, checking in with my nose to make
sure I don’t smell too off. Sometimes, I exhale heavily
onto my hand, to make sure my breath isn’t too rank.
I try to have at least some sweet smelling lotion on hand.
At
age 24, I got fired from a Baskin Robbins for subtly (I
thought) rubbing my fingers against my under arm and sniffing
them on a steamy summer day to make sure my deodorant was
still working. I don’t remember my conclusion, just
that I was fired shortly thereafter, for that plus a medley
of other autistic faux-pas.
I
am presently marooned "between" protective scents. Like
the glamour girl who cannot leave home without a full mask
of makeup, I¹m feeling mighty naked. Today, I spent
a good hour squeezing and pouring testers at a local health
food in a vain and desperate quest for a hand lotion I had
recently discovered but whose name I can’t remember.
My holy grail is the security blanket of the perfect scent.
This
almost Platonic olfactory ideal has always been a moving
target for me, especially after a recent illness, when my
sense of smell skewed nastily into the greener reaches of
the color wheel, which, unlike its painterly counterpart,
turns out to have its complement in the innocent periwinkle
reaches. My predilections have shifted from Chinese red
(amber paste, Guerlain’s Mitsuko and Jicky, an elusive
Italian perfume called Cobra) back to the innocent periwinkles
of my early childhood (Elizabeth Arden¹s Blue Grass,
Nina Ricci¹s l¹Air du Temps, Fleurs du Rocaille,
a dime-store Muguet des Bois).
My
synesthesia envelopes every sense of mine. I even thank
it for my orthographic and alphabetic knack. I wonder how
many other autists are synesthetes. I can identify scores
of classic perfumes by smell, even recall them in my imagination,
decades after having smelled them. The coloristic and instrumental
accompaniment supplied by my synesthetic imagination no
doubt helps.
I
just wish I could extend these synesthesiae to procedures
and other sequential information, faces, locations in space
and other visual things, for which I am downright aphasic.
Though we autists tend to share a concrete processing style,
the foci of our apocryphally Rainman-ian eidetic memories
differs from autist to autist as radically as from one "neuro-typical"
person to the next.
Though
I cannot recognize a face until I have met or--even better--seen
a picture of someone six or so times, there are entire symphonies
and piano concertos that I can whistle from start to finish;
likewise with scents and flavors, which I not only can recognize
but conjure up in my head decades later. I process a perfume
much as I do a symphony.
Much
as I love a good rose, not all comes up roses for this persnickety
Nose of mine. For one, the smell of franchise fast-food
not only nauseates me, but hangs around in my olfactory
bulb for a good 24 hours, often perseverating into a crescendo
of caustic migraines. Probably the most phobic smell--besides
a plague-infested battlefield, perhaps--is the acrid stench
of "buttered" popcorn at chain cinemas.
I
know a young girl with autism who is phobic of ketchup breath!
The Japanese describe Americans as "butakusai", which means
"stinking of butter". When I first learned this word, while
working at a Japanese trading company in San Francisco,
I felt validated that I’m not the only olfactory paranoiac
out there! I have found ketchup breath, among other things
quintessentially American, to be very "butakusai".
All
my senses are at least somewhat tweaky. It took me until
the age of 12 or 13 years, for instance, to know when I
was sick. I usually had to collapse in a faint or throw
up in the middle of class--or freak out or melt down for
no apparent reason. I don¹t think that this was entirely
because I was sick so much of the time, though that might
have been a contributing factor. I think there was no little
sensory processing confusion going on in whatever part of
the brain is supposed to alert the rest of the body of such
an event.
I
remember several instances of somebody’s finally having
figured out that I was sick, and what an "aha" experience
this imparted to my fever enfeebled intellect, in retrospect.
My passion for playing "the sleeping game" and my uncharacteristic
indifference to chocolate, my all-time drug of choice, suddenly
made sense to me.
My
mother tells me that I rarely cried as an infant, even when
I was hungry. I spent my early infancy staring at the ceiling,
whimpering softly when, as one of my mother’s friends
ascertained, my stomach was hurting. (Lest you mothers wax
too envious of mine’s good fortune at having begotten
such a little angel, rest assured that my 18th month of
such enviable babyhood ushered in a new apocalypse of either
shrieking and throwing things, and rocking back and forth
in a catatonic stupor.)
My
early indifference to food evolved into exquisite pickiness.
I gagged on cereal and rice. I abhorred all spices besides
salt and pepper. I was forced to overcome my pickiness about
food by embracing an ever widening variety of foods, simply
because I grew up in the Middle East, where mashed potatoes
and homemade dumplings were hard to come by, and grains,
which I have never liked, were even more central than they
are in the States. (I still haven’t embraced grains
wholeheartedly, partly, it turns out, because I can digest
so few of them.) I was 12 years old before I’d touch
rice--and then only the Basmati variety--or garlic.
I
remember being so phobic of garlic that my mother threatened
to rub it on my fingers to deter me from devouring my nails
and some of my fingertips, for added zest.
I
remember being particularly phobic of cilantro and coriander,
and of cinnamon in any non-sweets’ context. Since
proudly overcoming these phobias, I made all these ingredients
into cornerstones of subsequent cooking obsessions. The
same love-hate thing applies to other kinds of fear I have
managed to conquer, such as swimming. I wonder whether the
same holds true for neuro-typical folks.
Onto
music: A teenage friend of mine, who has Aspergers, shrieks,
winces and plugs his ears desperately whenever he hears
any female voice singing. I doubt very much this is a sexist
prejudice, as this young man harbors no other aversion toward
girls and women. Furthermore, I remember the sound of any
female vocalist having the same effect on me through my
teens, until I trained myself consciously to appreciate
a wider variety of music. My prejudice was especially galling,
since I had been inflicting my female singing voice since
age one.
My
early music taste was overly refined. I would positively
shrivel whenever I heard any note sung or played off-key,
or the wrong note or rhythm sung or played. It affected
me much as sirens, jackhammers and motorcycles do, bypassing
my ear and going right into my pain center. It mattered
naught that I probably was missing my vocal and harmonica
aim more than occasionally! Just like my young friend, I
would plug my ears forcefully and wince whenever anybody
else messed up.
In
elementary school, I liked only the Beatles and Gilbert
and Sullivan operettas, the latter probably only because
I got to sing Yum Yum, Little Buttercup and Josephine. My
only salvation from my claustrophobic narrowness was that
I would periodically "burn out" "my" composers by over bingeing,
which left me utterly devoid of salve for my music-parched
spirit.
These
burn-outs forced me to venture forth into new territory.
My middle-aged taste is much more varied, which provides
insurance against finding myself marooned between musical
binges.
I
still have singers and composers I cannot stand, though,
as does any autist worth his or her salt. Barbra Streisand,
Benjamin Britten and Gregorian chants come to mind, though
I am confident that I am suppressing my awareness of whole
other genres that propel my finger to the "off" button of
my many radios. The closest I have come to liking Barbra
is my deep appreciation for Patti Smith, which though no
ceegar is a start. When I can tolerate a whole side of Funny
Girl, I’ll know the time has come for me to start
imparting my sensory integra tion wisdom to other music-fussy
autists.
Autism Forum Summary June, 2003
The first panel, entitled "Post-Measure-28 Budget
Cuts and Revenue Projects: Affects on the Autism Community"
was a rally cry to
political action.
Margaret Theisen, the director of Full
Access Brokerage, explained how FAB was created to provide
services to adult clients whose wait-
listing for up to a decade had led to the Staley
Lawsuit. She said that funding cuts have forced FAB not only
to turn away new clients but to
waitlist until 2007 all clients slated to receive services
in July. She dubbed Governor Kulongoski and the House the
best "advocacy pressure
points."
Lynn Greenwood, the director of Lane Developmental
Disability Services, said that the budget cuts have
increased case manager’s case
loads while providing less money for training. She said
that Lane D.D.S. may be losing the family support program.
She reminded parents
and educators that IDEA is not just a good idea, it’s
the law.
Of the General Fund, 9.5 percent goes to Lane
County government, which hasn’t grown in the past 20
years, despite large population increas-
es. She mentioned an equalization lawsuit that would even
out tax-based differences in services.
Kitty Piercy, a former state representative,
serves on the Lane County Commission of Children and Families,
and chairs the Oregon Commis-
sion for Childcare. She also co-chaired Yes on 28, which passed
in Lane County. Portland is trying to pass a similar tax measure.
Piercy rec-
ommended the Family Advisory Committee for advocates.
She urged her audience to pressure Rep. Pat
Farr, who is part of the Lane County delegation. He needs
more than just to "feel deeply," she
said.
County Commissioner Peter Sorenson worked as
a state senator with Kitty Piercy. In July, he said, 97 Lane
County government workers will
be laid off; 47 of those are in public and mental health.
This represents a bigger hit than other departments.
The second panel, entitled “New Developments
in Brain Research, Interventions and Behavioral Management
for Autism Spectrum
Disorder" explored non-pharmaceutical interventions for autists.
Dr. Bove is a Eugene naturopath who practices
the DAN! protocol, allergy testing and chelation. He has been
practicing naturopathic medi-
cine for the past 11 years, and the DAN! protocol for a few
years. Dr. Bove tests for and then treats allergies, parasites,
viruses, yeast over-
growth, and heavy metal accumulations. He chelates with DMPS,
botanical agents and DMSA.
Dr. Leslie Carter is a Tigard-based therapist
who has done a lot of work in rehabilitation and neuropsychology.
She started out in pain man-
agement, but now treats PTSD, as well. She has an autistic
child, so she has found herself working increasingly
with autists and their fami-
lies. She teaches autists to decipher nonverbal games and
cues. As she puts it, autists "need to become dopamine junkies
and to bond with
emotional memories."
Carter is on the diagnostic team for the O.H.S.U.‘s
secretin project. Her approach supplements biomedical techniques.
She finds bio-feed-
back most useful for adolescents and adults.
She sees emotional dysregulation as a root of
the phobias and horror of surprises afflicting autists.
She cited Steve Gutstein as a new pioneer
in behavioral interventions. His approach, called Relationship
Development Intervention, teaches nonverbal games to
help autists learn flexi-
bility and to focus more on relationship than objects.
Benjamin Bell, L.M.T., performs cranial sacral
therapy, which aligns the skull plates in order to help regulate
the flow of cerebral-spinal flu-
id. He has found cranial sacral therapy helpful for people
with neurological and behavioral problems, as well as those
with skull abnormali-
ties such as flat heads and osseous lesions, 75 percent of
which are below the ears, he said. He said that five minutes
of pressure can shut off
a nerve.
Rhonda Way teaches a weekly sign language
(modified American Sign Language) class at Bridgeway
House to kids in the autism spectrum
and another one to adults and parents of autists who want
to teach it to their kids. She said that babies on and off
the spectrum start talking
months earlier if their parents start them off in sign language.
Sign language is especially helpful for children with verbal
communication
problems. Verbal and hearing students too enjoy improved
communication skills. Kids in all walks of the autism spectrum
learn to make
more appropriate eye contact. Sign language enhances artistic
expression, also.
The third panel, on “Dignity, Self-Determination
and Independence: How to Maintain During These Uncertain Times”,
was a rally for
self-determination and empowerment of people in the autism
spectrum, along with all people with developmental disabilities.
Rick Newton
said, "there is no such thing as a behavior problem, just
uneven self-advocacy." Pam Ring, the director of The Arc of
Lane County, said that
she started out "advocating for people who [could] not speak
for themselves, but found that they can speak for themselves."
Molly Elliott,
the program director for City of Eugene’s Specialized
Recreation Division, described her programs at Hilyard Community
Center, which in-
clude day trips to fun and scenic destinations, holiday parties,
arts and crafts and cooking classes, parties, friendship groups,
and yoga class-
es. The Center also hosts many of KindTree’s events.
The fourth panel covered “New Developments in the Autism
Community: Alternative Supports, Support Groups and
Schools”. Susan Parks and Dawn Stahlberg from Autism
Training and Support created an autism classroom at Hamlin
Middle School in
Springfield. This sensory based program teaches the kids to
self-regulate their nervous systems. The first and last periods
eases the transition
from home to bus to school--and vice versa--and to fill out
their check-off lists or do homework. It also is a refuge.
The class works on so-
cialization skills, giving the students a an opportunity to
relax and have fun together.
Cheryl Nel Applegate, a case worker at Lane
DDS, facilitates KindTree’s monthly autism support group.
She talked about the friendships
and camaraderie that have blossomed in the three years since
the group got together. The group came up with a long
list of topics, one of
which it discusses every month.
Nan Lester, who started the Asperger Advocacy
Coalition, talked about how the Coalition has returned
to being a support group for parents
of kids with Asperger¹s. For a while, she said, the group
was hosting a long series of guest speakers. AAC will be hosting
a Temple Grandin
conference in October.
Pat Wigney, the director of Bridgeway House,
talked about Bridgeway’s mission to house a "trauma
team" for parents whose kids have just
been branded "autistic" and a host of professionals working
with autists. These could include doctors and naturopaths;
occupational, dance
and art therapy; classes; an autism library; resource
referral; support groups. Pat conceived her brainchild last
summer; it was born in Octo-
ber in her living room.
Tim Mueller of KindTree offered to begin a discussion
on how to create an autism network organization here in Lane
County. People were
enthusiastic, and I expect we’ll hear more about this
idea as time goes by.
It was a great Forum. Look for it again next
year! Mary-Minn