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the Stim Pages

Writings by
KindTree President Mary-Minn Sirag
as they appear in KindTree's Newletter "Reaching Out - Reaching In."

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 Workin' for a livin'
October, 2006
 Autism is a Special Interest Now
March, 2005
 Cognitive Work-Arounds
March, 2003
 The Anatomy of a Freakout
June, 2006
 Developing a cultural understanding
of autism.
June, 2004
 These are a few of my favorite stims
March, 2002
 On the Illusion of Leadership
March, 2006
 coming to terms with autism
March, 2004
 What Kind Tree means to one autist
June, 2001
 The nonverbal “language” of obsessions
September, 2005
 A weird autistic sensorium
September, 2003
 Autism Research Report
December 2000
  Autistic Pride Day
June, 2005
 Autism Forum Summary
June, 2003
 On Living With Autism
October 2000

 

Mary-Minn's Stim Page

(Here are personal stories about autism. If you would like to see your musings on this page, please email Mary-Minn at sirag@mindspring.com.)

Workin' for a Livin'

1978 was a banner year for me in sheer quantity of jobs held. That year, I blew through 12 jobs “like they were Kleenex,” as my older brother put it. I was living in Manhattan, studying life sculpture during evenings at the Art Students’ League on West 57th Street, sharing an apartment on the Upper East Side with my parasitic boyfriend and making ends meet catch-as-catch-can.

The pinnacle of my career that year was waiting tables at the Veracruz Spanish and Mexican restaurant, down the street from the U.N. It was a mighty soft gig for the maladroit waitress that I was. I’d show up at a leisurely 10:30 a.m., when I and my counterpart, a chivalrous Mexican man, would set to work scouring the bathrooms and setting up our stations before getting to the paid work of waiting tables. Our choice clientele of U.N. diplomats were pleasant, interesting to talk to, easy to wait on, and generous with their tips.

"Health and safety standards were quite beside the point at the Chocolate Factory. Being germ phobic, I threw out the dropped chocolate when nobody was looking. "


At the end of our shift, we employees would be treated to a substantial and delicious Spanish and/or Mexican dinner, com-plete with potent and flavorful margaritas. No matter that I was paid a mingey $3 a day, for which I signed the back of a check; no matter that I was forbidden to look at the front of the check, which probably was written for a significantly larger amount. Wages were merely a maraschino cherry perched precariously atop the proverbial ice-cream sundae, as I made as much in tips during those three hours as I would have been paid as a full-time filing clerk in the dingy recesses of Wall Street or a proofreader for an uptight fashion magazine in midtown.

About three weeks into my employment, my fellow waiter mysteriously failed to show up for work, but I managed to get my friend hired in his stead. She was an elegant Iranian woman with patrician manners, in stark contrast to scrawny, tweaky, fash-ion-dork me. My boss was clearly impressed by her. She refused to clean toilets; my boss reassured her that I could take up her slack, no problem. I objected strenuously. I was not above cleaning toilets, but it was the “principle” of having to show up a half-hour early to do a junior co-worker’s “dirty work.”

The following Monday, our entire kitchen staff had vanished from the face of the kitchen. The I.N.S. had deported the lot of them, as had probably befallen the waiter. That Monday turned out to be the busiest day I had ever experienced at that establishment. The line was 20 or so people long. Food was a long time coming, as my boss was ill-equipped to keep up with such a barrage of orders by himself. I reassured my patient cus-tomers that there was a slight problem in the kitchen, that I hadn’t forgotten their order. As usual, they were patient and kind with me.
When the food was finally ready, my supervisor brought it to them with a magnanimous flourish and yelled at me in front of the whole dining room for being so slow on the uptake. I shrieked back at him, again in full view and earshot of the entire din-ing room, that the food had been delayed because we were without a kitchen staff, and not due to any slowness of mine. I added that he should consider hiring people with legal visas next time, even if he had to pay them minimum wage. I was fired the next day for insubordination.

It wasn’t the first or the last job from which I was fired, for one reason or other. Back then, employment was easy-come-easy-go. I canvassed door-to-door for work rather than bothering with the voluminous classifieds and employment agencies, with their nitpicking requirements for shorthand, which I had never studied, and for fast and accurate typing, which I wasn’t to master until the corrasable IBM Selectric II erased my terror of typos and Liquid Paper.

Within a week, I was working retail at a small “chocolatier” deceptively named “The Chocolate Factory” on Canal Street, back then a sleazy no-zone between the Bowery and Wall Street. The boss was a questionable fellow named Alan Silver, whom I renamed “Alan Silverfish.”
We employees shared a delirious, delicious and well-deserved contempt for the Silverfish, but I was the only one with the “guts” to call him that to his face, as though my vocal disapproval could reform him, thereby making the world a friendlier and safer microcosm. Self-righteous “honesty”, above all, was a guiding principle for me back then.

The Silverfish pretended to be a chocolatier, rather than the mere purveyor of low-grade chocolate he was. To prove his nonexistent culinary expertise, he had placed a small saucepan with some somewhat dusty melted Hersheys atop a hot plate in a small closet at the back of the store. In reality, the chocolate he sold was imported, from across the Hudson River–Brooklyn, to be exact. We were instructed to tear down the chocolate boxes so that nobody could see their origin. Whenever we needed something that our Brooklyn supplier didn’t carry, the Silverfish would send Claire, the prettiest and calmest among us, to trade shows under an independent guise, as none of the other chocolate suppliers would have any financial dealings with Mr. Silver. Claire must have been one smooth talker to get into those trade shows without a wholesalers’ license.

I took great pride in my ability to estimate weight precisely to the ounce. Seeing this, my boss ordered me to overweigh by a quarter pound, so as to sell more chocolate than the customer had ordered. Sure enough, most customers didn’t notice the slightly larger quantity I had “misweighed,” but it chafed at my autistic love of precision.

New York City was still recovering from a long garbage strike. “No spitting” signs adorned the streets and subway stations, and for good reason. When chocolate fell on the floor, we were instructed to dust it off and put it back in the case. Health and safety standards were quite beside the point at the Chocolate Factory. Being germ phobic, I threw out the dropped chocolate when nobody was looking.

The store had a basement and sub-basement out of an early Stephen King novel, inhabited by tomcat-sized rats with sharp incisors and eyes that flashed red when the lighting was just dingy enough. Claire and I were charged with penetrating these sub-terranean reaches to retrieve the second-hand heart-shaped boxes festooned with battle-fatigued ribbons. Those hastily assembled, ratty boxes were just another of love’s cruelties.

Every so often, Mr. Silver exhibited great generosity by sending me out to an excellent little Chinese deli to fetch low-mein for his crew. Those evenings, my till would come out $20 or so short, which was a prodigious shortfall, considering that the average purchase was $3.
A few days after a hectic Valentines Day, I gave notice to my boss. Shocked that I not only had shown up for work that day but had given him notice, Silverfish gave me a severance bonus, plus a bag of chocolates. The bonus added up to the amounts he had deducted from my pay for “over rings.” And so, it was my turn to be shocked.

Mary-Minn Sirag

 


The anatomy of a freakout

The first day after being ill is wonderful, indeed. My senses are alert without being too sharp. My brain can follow a logical pattern again. The temperature outside not only is perfect, but feels perfect. Colors are bright, and spring smells sweet again. I am well rested, after 12 or so hours of sleep, and I could eat a house if only a realtor would give me one to chaw on. My body is clear of aches and pains.

My illness was a four-month flood of high anxiety, depression and freakouts that crested just last night with a skin-crawling darkness of the soul. It started out insidiously as my customary winter depression.

"I lost my ability to anticipate, recognize and ward off my Confusion Triggers. "


My brain receptors had become immune to the antidepressant I was taking, rendering it useless. I felt too delicate to embark on yet another series of biochemical experiments before hitting on another antidepressant that would hold me until the next crash. Putting this off was my first big mistake.

A friend of mine had successfully diminished a recent trauma of her own with a five-session course of EMDR rapid-eye movement cognitive therapy treatments, which heartened me. I determined that I too could weaken my own freakout triggers with a course of EMDR, since my triggers are specific: losing things, getting lost, and not knowing what I am supposed to do in any given moment. I had even figured out the specific experiences leading up to my triggers. Thinking that five sessions of EMDR would fix me was my second mistake.

In a metaphoric and less than scientifically rigorous nutshell, the rapid eye movement, by stimulating both sides of the brain almost simultaneously, rearranges trauma-induced neural pathways that are activated by stimuli the patient associates with the trauma. The goal is to scramble these pathways sufficiently to disentangle the multitude of triggers from the initial trauma. Later on in the process, reintegration supposedly occurs after the brain has formed new pathways that are squeaky-clean of the trauma and its ramifying surrogates.

The therapist provides the patient with a safe venue to revisit these traumas as the patient’s eyes track the therapist’s rapid back-and-forth hand movements. After helping me to come up with comforting images to keep in mind, my therapist told me to relax and follow my thoughts.
My first serious obstacle was that relaxation is a state of being that is every bit as elusive to me as spiritual enlightenment. My second obstacle was my extreme defensiveness about opening my being to my traumas. Though I can ruminate about them endlessly, voluntarily re-experiencing them in a therapeutic context is a whole other matter. My third obstacle was my innate suspicion of professionals, even when I’m giving it my college best to be open-minded.
During the sessions, however hard I tried to revisit these traumas of mine, my attention settled instead on comforting stimuli–the reassuring tock of a mechanical clock, the bells at St. Mary’s Episcopal Church that reminded me of church bells in the village of my childhood, the warming click of the baseboard heater, even a bus changing gears, so reminiscent of cross-country Greyhound bus trips I took during college. My therapist was astonished at how many mechanical sounds I took refuge in. She clearly wasn’t the John Cage fan that I am. Meanwhile, the trauma I was trying so hard to reframe evaded my conscious grasp.

Alas, the therapy was worse for me than merely ineffectual. As promised, my brain felt scrambled for a few weeks, which was initially reassuring, as something seemed to be happening. The awful part, though, was that it never unscrambled completely to reintegrate its moorings, so my triggers became more random and unpredictable than before. Perhaps the requisite five expensive treatments were insufficient for my slow processing of information; however, by then, I was done with throwing good money–and time–after bad.

My mental health cascaded from there. My anxiety worsened from mere agitation and nervousness to a pervasive sense of im-pending doom and wrenched anguish. Daily, I awoke in a cold sweat of panic and foreboding, dreading the day’s unfolding. Premoni-tions of death loomed as I got behind the wheel, and my mind perseverated on near-accidents. My skin crawled as though trafficked by tiny vermin. My brain felt ready to pop out of its skull. My innards clenched. Things I had said reverberated back at me days later in a hollow mockery of my voice. My heart raced as though my veins were going to explode. I felt windswept from the inside. I developed a gripping and galloping-stampede social phobia. During the last week of my crisis, my anxiety culminated in a low-grade fever that kept me unpleasantly hot, though the ambient temperature was pleasantly cool. Toward the very end of my long episode, I craved solitude but couldn’t stand to be alone.

I lost the ability to keep things properly organized for myself, which fed one of my two worst freakout triggers: losing things. I couldn’t remember where I had–or even should–put things. My visual processing and sense of direction deteriorated, as did my problem-solving and troubleshooting ability. For instance, I often neglected to check the phone book and my various street maps before venturing out into even slightly uncharted reaches, thinking that “everything is going to be alright.” I forgot to eat frequently enough, rendering me woozy, irrational and irascible. Though I continued to print out my checklists for leaving the house in the morning, I glossed over important checkpoints and neglected to close important loops I had opened, such as strapping my keys to my right-hand pocket in order to keep myself safely attached to them.

During this four-month period, my freakouts increased in frequency and intensity as I lost my ability to anticipate, recognize and ward off my confusion triggers. Each freakout left me raw and vulnerable to even worse subsequent ones. They evolved from fits of obscene ranting and high-decibel shrieking at my frozen-up computer; to stapling my wrist, cross-hatching one arm with a serrated knife and bruising the other with the clenched fist of the first hand; to a stomping and shrieking rage of frustration and confusion-panic at a dear friend and her family due to an unreasoned assumption I had made in a state of hypoglycemic exhaustion.

My friend and her family accepted my abject apology. I then dissected and analyzed my recent hell with her, other friends and family. In place, yet again, are my protocols of prevention: When my brain is slower than the world around it, I am to request a smokeless break to sort and map things out in my mind, to look up the address in the phone book and the exact coordinates on a map. Whenever I leave the house, I am to pack plenty of nourishing protein to fuel my brain. Whenever I feel that hazard bubble ascending from my gut to my brain, I am to stop and figure out what my spider sense is trying to tell me.

As the egg man at the Marin County farmers’ market told my sister, “Don’t be too hard on yourself.”

Mary-Minn Sirag

 


Mary-Minn's Stim Page March, 2006

(Here are personal stories about autism. If you would like to see your musings on this page, please email Mary-Minn at sirag@mindspring.com.)

 

Before I “came out” with my autism by joining the autism community in late summer, 2000, I wanted nothing more than to be given a chance to be a Leader. I wanted to spearhead everything from activities to movements, though I had no specific mission at that point. All I needed was the authority to lead–or so I thought. After all, I argued with no one in particular, I was good at giving feed-back without being judgmental or critical. The school of hard knocks had taught me not to be a micro-manager. I had chutzpah. I was fearless about taking responsibility for my mistakes and learning from them. What more did a good leader need?

True, I had freakouts, but only when things got out of control. Granted, I have always been burdened by a stratospheric standard of “control.” Nonetheless, all I needed to do was to front-load complex tasks so as not to set my “team” up to fail by piling on too much at the last moment. It was a matter of logistics.

"My frequent brushes with failure in group activities had been due almost invariably to others’ unenlightened leadership,
or so I thought."


I had written procedure and training manuals, and designed elaborate work-flow systems as a paranoid precaution against the chaos and error rate that led to so much blame and dissension within those harried ranks I was inhabiting.
In the meantime, I had avoided positions of genuine leadership. Resisting a painfully intense reproductive urge, I had chosen to forgo starting a family, for fear of finding myself unable to provide for them financially or to survive the poverty that my unremark-able wage-earning ability might impose on my hapless offspring. I had felt righteously responsible in my decision rather than fearful, as I truly was.
I had turned down one or two opportunities for minor promotions on the job–out of modesty, I told myself. I had avoided com-mittees for supposedly esthetic reasons. The word “committee” was not euphonious to me.
My frequent brushes with failure in group activities had been due almost invariably to others’ unenlightened leadership, or so I thought. Back then, I could have written books on leadership, because I felt omniscient about what bad leadership looked like from my enlightened perspective.
It is a cliché that the hardest lessons come from having one’s own deepest wishes fulfilled. I have learned that if I want some-thing badly enough, it will come to pass eventually. Applied effort coupled with intense desire will bring about just any desired out-come, I have found. Like just about everything, this is a double-edged sword.
Ever since college, I wanted to repay a debt to my grandmother for her brilliantly intuitive early intervention, which had saved me from The Institution, where they put autistic children like myself back in the ‘50’s. I knew not how I was going to repay this debt, but serving the autism community remained an inchoate ambition of mine, even as I was posing as neuronormal.
Meantime, my deluded bubble of thought and action started to crumble in my late 40’s, as I started to look my age, and my matu-rity lagged behind my fading youthfulness and alleged promise. I had less and less use for anger and hard feelings, as both had stopped fueling me back in my 20’s. My chutzpah started to give way to an uneasy surrender to uncertainty and responsibility for what had gone wrong.
Meantime, more and more had been written about autism, which gave me new courage to embark on the long process of coming to terms with its profound implications. Light bulbs blew out and then were replaced and screwed back into luminescence as I found names for what had hampered me in my many aborted leadership attempts. I started to recognize my critical lack of “joint attention” in group situations: my flouncing out of a meeting during my senior year of high school because the teacher leading our group had wanted the play our committee was writing to be more serious and less “satirical”; my inability to keep focused and calm during meet-ings without sketching frantically.
My “brilliance” with imposing work flow on my co-workers became manifestly a desire to keep things autistically regulated. I had been dogmatic about my methodology, as it was the only way I could navigate complex projects. After a while, I would drive my supervisors nuts, which would crescendo us into snarly beak clashings. Eventually, they got the better of me–alas and not alas!–and off with my head in that particular context.
Back to square one, the want ads, and my subsequent agonies finding work conventional enough to pay my keep.
Meantime, a local eclectic and intuitive massage therapist threw me into KindTree. Leadership opportunities opened up, for the first time ever and quite by surprise. I suddenly felt unworthy as any kind of leader. At the same time, I acquired minor leadership po-sitions in my various joblets, and found myself daunted by the responsibility and the terror of making critical mistakes.
Starting to recognize how one-dimensional and slow my brain processing really is, I started to ask for help with my sudden over-loads, internal shutdowns and jarring panic attacks that continue to stalk me. Leadership now is more like being buoyed by my com-rades than marching ahead of the troops fearlessly.
Trying to lead with my gaping holes in executive function deficits suggests a big question: is it even possible?
I function much better as a task-oriented work horse. As in: Detail oriented. Friendly and sociable. Strong sense of fairness. Col-laborative. Honest. (Not to be confused with: Thinks well on nimble cat feet. Shrewd. Independent. Big-picture person. Ambitious but cautious. Quick study. The strong, silent type.)
What expertise I have is strictly preventive, for mitigating and minimizing real-time problem-solving situations, during which I freeze or explode.
After being expelled by the job market, I took refuge in KindTree, which became my role model as well as safe haven and an im-mense “skill set” from which to draw. I observe and work alongside experienced and talented leaders, hoping to absorb some of their wisdom in action. It has taken me a while to catch on to how much kinder this field is than were the mercenary trades where I spent too many years. Had I only known this, I would have come out much sooner with my autism.

Mary-Minn Sirag


Mary-Minn's Stim Page September, 2005

(Here are personal stories about autism. If you would like to see your musings on this page, please email Mary-Minn at sirag@mindspring.com.)

The nonverbal “language” of obsessions
Obsessive-compulsive disorder often accompanies autism. The benign OCD that I “suffer from” has taken on different forms, most of them downright soothing, except for my almost unslakable need to process certain inter-personal things to death.

I don’t remember having any disabling repetitive rituals, just strange obsessions and compulsions, which have evolved over the years. As I all-too-slowly matured, I learned to talk myself out of some of the more self-de-feating ones by labeling them out of existence.

When I was five or six, I became obsessed with infinity. I lay awake trying to bisect the–infinite, I had been told–universe. Perhaps this infinity of mine was inspired by the immense Iowa sky. I remember trying in vain to render the bisecting blade long or wide enough to touch the edges, of the edgeless infinity in my imagination. I hadn’t read Poe’s “The Pit and the Pendulum,” but my own blade presaged my later reading about his. Both blades cut chilling figures in my imagination, like the razor blade cutting the eyeball in the opening scene of Dali and Buñuel’s film, The Andalusian Dog (which image was to obsess me in college).

"My compulsions slowly evolved into strange mental obsessions."


At age seven, after I moved to Lebanon with my family, I acquired a “demon” who prompted me to do cer-tain phobic things, such as sniffing vomit, touching something disgusting or saying something obviously inoppor-tune, even cruel. This demon of mine was a phobic compulsion, not a religious apparition. I knew it was a silly figment, but it took me almost a decade to shake my compulsion to follow its tyrannical directives.

In 8th grade, my demon compelled me to tattle on my science class. (That was the only time that I can re-member tattling, ever.) Our class was having a party. I even enjoyed parties, if for no other reason than the treats and the reprieve from the academic grind. The principal stopped in and asked us what was going on. He seemed to want the reassurance of a white lie, not a confession of such a petty misdemeanor. Nonetheless, I felt compelled against my will to tell him. Regulations forced him to forbid it. He seemed pained to lower the boom. Though I already had become the outcast I was to remain through tenth grade, my tattling served no purpose whatsoever; perhaps it was a perverse pang of over-wrought autistic conscience.

Throughout my childhood, I was fixated on heights and flying. I jumped into gravel and sand pits, even off of small cliffs. I sprained my ankle once from jumping into a gravel pit, but was too embarrassed and afraid of get-ting in trouble to divulge my foolish accident to a soul. However, I did not enjoy jumping from one high place to another for fear of falling. I needed to time my freefall.
My compulsions slowly evolved into strange mental obsessions.

Through my teen years, images of animals or weird associations attached themselves to certain people I knew. I remember convulsing in uncontrollable and inappropriate laughter for hours over these private jokes of mine. Later on, I started to feel guilty about my cheap thrills at the expense of these people, so I trained my mind to stop amusing itself in this way. I think my moralism had everything to do with my autism.

In about ninth grade, I learned about the Law of Conservation. Living in dread of misfortune, I replaced mat-ter and energy with good luck and bad luck. In my interpretation of this Law, a run of good luck would be fol-lowed by an equal run of bad luck. Value could be quantified in intensity or duration, so one extremely propitious event–say–could be followed by a longer run of mediocre bad luck. The runs had to be equivalent in what I (mathematically inaccurately) dubbed “absolute value,” which was a Heisenberg-ish duality of duration and inten-sity. Life comprised a karmic succession of runs. I came to dread good luck, because it would be followed by an equally valued run of bad luck. Many years later, I explained this to the man who later became my husband. He compared my notion to gambler’s ruin, which very name emancipated me from the bond of this odious obsession. Names are potent talismans. I abhor euphemism partly because it emasculates the magic of language.

In college I treasured–and still do–a couple of nifty esthetic fixations: on desolate industrial areas, steam power-generating plants with immense colorful piping, engine rooms, commercial shipyards, trains going under bridges, and grain elevators, especially those that rise up out of nowhere on flat prairie. These fill me with the same kind of crown-tingling awe as do the Grand Canyon or the Parthenon.

I love to walk around in deserted warehouse districts, especially those ancient warehouses with long grids of windows on all sides. Seeing windows–or their light shadows–within windows gives me a joyful frisson.

One of the beauties of David Lynch’s black-and-white cult classic Eraserhead, which I have watched 12 times, is its Midwestern Rust Belt industrial atmosphere. My brother John shares my love of this particular esthet-ic, and coined the word “colodryl” for it.

From the time I was five, I was spooked by horizontal ovals, especially those in the arches of dingy stucco porches in Iowa. I think they reminded me of the stretched out grimace of the Goony Man, the peeping-tom villain in my scariest nightmare ever, when I was five. During college, over a decade later, I would walk by a certain “malignant” house at night to test my grip over this primordial fear of mine.
I am somewhat of a connoisseur of graphic logos. Ovals are so expressive, and can run the gamut between uplifting and mocking, depending on their angular proportions. On the other hand, I find myself wincing at those partial ellipses on drug and telecommunication logos, whose euphemistic triteness lend a totalitarian feel to mod-ern billboards and truck panels.

I have noticed that my various obsessions reach peaks of intensity and then wane gradually after awhile, which can be anywhere from years to decades. The pleasant ones fade from overexposure, much as the poignancy of a particular musical recording lessens after I “burn it out” by listening to it over and over again.

My more menacing obsessions require the antidote of verbal analysis.

Mary-Minn Sirag


 

Mary-Minn's Stim Page June, 2005

(Here are personal stories about autism. If you would like to see your musings on this page, please email Mary-Minn at sirag@mindspring.com.)

I write this on June 18, 2005, which is none other than Autistic Pride Day, a glorious day redolent with thunder, lightning, dou-ble rainbows with intercalaries, cloud formations and shadow play. Mark this day on your calendars next year, if you haven’t already.

I’d be attending a choir party tonight or discussing philosophy in some dank church basement if my life were the same as it was before coming out with my autism almost five years ago. Contrary to the DSM stereotype, I, like so many autists I know, am extremely social. Being a social autist forces more personal growth than staying true to the asocial stereotype–so untrue to my very nature.

 

“I doubted my ability to contribute anything useful.”


Though I have never been a joiner, my bent for performing and artistic interaction has forced me into too many group situations. I am more collaborative than competitive or aloofly self-sufficient; besides, I have never been accomplished–or brazen–enough in my piano playing or singing to perform solo in front of a willing audience.
(Ed. Note - Mary-Minn did perform a solo harmonica piece at this year’s Shy Person’s Talent Show.)

Until five years ago, I earned my financial keep in conventional corporate settings, with all the competitive stress. Again, my bad employment choices reflected my lack of executive function to fashion a more suitable career, without pre-existing organizational un-derpinnings. Lacking the concept of executive function exemplified by this deficiency of mine, I was ashamed of the spectacularly au-tistic dichotomy between certain “splinter skills” of mine and my inability to cobble them together into anything useful. I wondered if I might be living down my “retarded” diagnosis from 1957, after all. Being labeled “retarded” at any age leaves its psychological resi-due.

Group dynamics were torture for me. Much of this was due to my faulty joint attention, my inability to walk the conversational tightrope between listening and talking that comprises turn taking. (Until this winter, I was mistaking “joint attention” for a knuckle cracking obsession, which fits me equally well.) This inability became all the more poignant in conversation. My enthusiastic me toos with their verbose rejoinders would alienate all too many of my interlocutors. Many of those who chose to overlook these faux pas were put off by my astringent defensiveness toward any patronizing or trite replies to my. Being silent turned out to be my smartest option. Being one to prefer private silence required me to quit these groups. That was way before I gave myself permission to rein in my energy and ground myself by drawing, but that is a whole other longwinded story.
In July of 2000, I was working as an enumerator for the Census Bureau and writing for two agricultural journals. Meantime, my health was misbehaving, so I was seeing too many holistic practitioners. I was just starting to divulge to these well-meaning folks that I am autistic, in the off chance that one of them would have some simple and pleasant panacea for all that ailed me.

On my Census rounds, I happened on a massage therapist, who told me about KindTree, and promptly foisted me on them. I was afraid of being rejected from yet another group, this time for being insufficiently autistic. Furthermore, I had lost all confidence in my group skills, so I doubted my ability to contribute anything useful.
But it was too late. Tim, Nel, Michelle, Melissa and Steve–KindTree’s board of directors–invited me over for dinner. Kindred spirits they were. I regaled them with my life story, and they not only didn’t flinch but seemed to find me entertaining and amusing, though doubtless a bit odd. They invited me to be their first autistic speaker at their upcoming autism retreat, two weeks hence.

I was clinically phobic of public speaking. By “clinical,” I am referring to out-of-body, profuse sweating and flushing, dizzy, nauseated and near-death panic. At the various philosophical discussion groups I had attended with my husband, I would dispatch my turns unceremoniously with speedily terse statements while other people would wax grandiloquent in their august profundities, or, like my husband, utter a few insightful, cogent and eagerly awaited gems.

I also had gone to a couple of support groups for my various afflictions and problems, only to worry myself even sicker after-wards about my bad performance.

My first talk at that retreat was atrociously bad, but mitigated for me by the indulgent kindness of my hosts and the other autists. My poignant embarrassment about my bad talk was palliated by my spiritual experience of that first retreat, where I met my first au-tists, also kindred spirits. I cried all the way home, from a joy born of liberation to come. Those who know me would probably agree that I’m averagely sentimental, not particularly lugubrious or weepy. When I do cry, it’s generally out of despair rather than tender emotions.

From then on, I could not wrest myself from KindTree. I was hooked. There was no getting rid of me, by tactful or other means. And nobody even tried! The magic was everywhere; KindTree was atwitter with romance and friendship, starting with Michelle and Steve’s romance that had birthed KindTree’s first retreat, in 1996; out of this retreat, the rest of KindTree has flowed. Michelle and Melissa, who were to marry four years later, had met at the retreat the previous year. Tim and Nel, who married the same year as Mi-chelle and Melissa, had met at the Developmental Disability (DD) in-service, conceiving KindTree’s monthly autism support group, in response to an Aspy in the audience.

Nel’s support group has bred many autistic friendships, including many of my own. Two of my friends met at a retreat planning committee last year, and have been “peas in a pod” (their expression, not mine) ever since.
Our newsletter has enriched our autism scene by attracting friends from northerly reaches. From these friendships has come a group of folks that calls itself the “Autism Movers and Shakers,” comprised of folks along the I-5 corridor who meet monthly at Kwan’s Chinese Restaurant in Salem to chew the visionary fat. PAGE 3 Anybody who wants to join us can email me at Sirag@mindspring.com or call me at (541) 689-2228.

Our little nonprofit’s breeding proclivities compensate handsomely for my own lack of breeding or human progeny. It has helped spawn activities and organizations, as well as individual relationships. Bridgeway House was born in October of 2002, five months after the parent panel at KindTree’s first Autism Forum. We also caught up with Nan Lester’s Asperger Advocacy Coalition, which not only has cracked open Eugene’s 4J School District to Aspies, but, in the process, has catalyzed many friendships among autists across generations, family members and professionals. Nan Lester has started a monthly Asperger issues discussion group for Aspies.
This past year, our various collaborative non-profits came together to form a Lane County Chapter of the Autism Society of Ore-gon, with a monthly adult autists’ activity group that meets to do anything from trout fishing to miniature golfing, and a professional development committee. The magic is in the air.

Mary-Minn Sirag

 


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(Here are personal stories about autism. If you would like to see your musings on this page, please email Mary-Minn at sirag@mindspring.com.)

Autism has become a pervasive topic lately, leading to increased public awareness, both informative and misleading. The very topic has evolved into a veritable “special interest” in the media.

This is quite a contrast to 1987, when I started to educate myself about my autism by paying a visit to the University of Iowa Psychiatric Hospital, where my grandparents had taken me 47 years prior for regular checkups to see if I was ready to return to my parents and siblings, who were living in Beirut.

After a short meeting with one of the psychiatrists who had seen me as a small nonverbal child, I asked the hospital to send me my psychiatric records from that time. I received a smattering of notes from various childhood visits. The psychiatrist, then retired and in his 80s, wrote that he saw no more evidence of my autism, though he noted my “quick, bird-like gestures” and nervousness.

 

“I held my Dirty Little Secret of being autistic
close to the vest”

At the time, I had met no other autists, let alone autistic adults. I had heard of my mother’s autistic nephew, who died in an institution shortly thereafter. My mother told me about a younger second-cousin (a nonverbal woman) from the same branch of my family tree.

That summer, I scoured our nearest public library (in Santa Rosa, California) for more information about autism. During that period, I read Oliver Sacks’ Annals of Medicine about Temple Grandin in The New Yorker, to which I was subscribing. Back then, there were precious few books written on autism, at least in Santa Rosa’s small public library. Temple Grandin had not yet written Emergence: Labeled Autistic. Most of what I was able to glean was in Science News, the only science journal there, so I was relegated to short articles on atrophied amygdalae and cerebella.

I submitted an article to Redbook about my “triumph” over autism. I figured that if I was living independently, it was because I was no longer autistic. I felt simultaneously blessed and amazingly clever. Red-book expressed interest in my query, but, fortunately for me, rejected my stiffly written manuscript. I was not ready to go public with the fact that I had been autistic. Something told me that I still was, I guess, and I needed community support to deal with that. I continued to stick to my vow, from when I was five, that I would no longer be autistic. This resolution of mine turned out to be about as effective as my wishing away the mole on my neck in second grade, by rubbing it while intoning in Draculan tones, “I wish the mole would go away. I wish the mole would go away.”

For the next 13 years, I held my dirty little secret of being autistic close to the vest. I limped along, holding it together until my weirdness started to catch up with me yet again, at which time I’d find myself yet again pulled into back offices at whatever job I was doing and chatted to about my disruptive outbursts under stress, my strange lack of eye contact, my inability to be casually friendly and businesslike at the same time, my strange slowness in learning seemingly simple procedures despite my aptitude for learning more conceptual information.

A young co-worker at my last corporate job (a printing and pub-lishing company) had a son who had just been diagnosed autistic. In an attempt to assure her that autism is not a death sentence (“Witness me, after all!”), I divulged to her that I am autistic. This reserved woman was visibly taken aback by my confession. She admitted to having noticed something “different” about me, and shuddered a little at the prospect of her precious son turning out like this maladroit copy editor on the swing shift. My intention had been to inspire hope, not strike terror in this young mother’s heart! Nor was this the last time I was to meet with such disappointment, even from fellow autists, who assured me–and themselves–that they aren’t so “severely affected” as I. I have finally learned to hold back on my sage advice!

For four years after this confession, I managed somehow to hold it together like the little Dutch boy at the dyke until my various weirdnesses would start rupturing my valiant attempts at quick-witted charm and high-energy mellowness. I’d start each job trying to impress my co-workers with how very together I “really” am, only to slide into despair when the battle fatigue of my efforts started to wear down my brittle defenses and scrape the scabs from my petty traumas.

In 2000, while enumerating for Census 2000, I told my massage therapist about my autism, as I had started doing with my alternative-medicine “providers,” in the oft chance that they might have some insight into it. She told me about KindTree Productions, a grass-roots autism nonprofit that she thought could use my skills. I had my serious doubts, about my usefulness in society and my ability to work in any kind of group, even the “autism community.” Above all, I was terrified of rejection by “people like me.” Just for starters, what if I wasn’t autistic enough?

Refusing to broach my many cop-outs, she foisted me on the board members, who not only tolerated me, but turned out to be kindred spirits. Michelle, Steve, Tim and Melissa invited me to speak at the retreat two weeks later. There I met my first fellow autists. It was a profound coming-home for me.
For the next year or two, as I got more involved with KindTree and then the larger autism community, I annoyed my pre-KindTree friends with my sudden “obsession” with autism, which bordered on messianic, I guess.

My connections in the autism community, meanwhile, brought me into contact with employers who saw my experience with being autistic as an asset in working with other autists and in the DD community. I accepted that I had a disability, and signed on with Voc. Rehab. My counselor helped me draft a self-employment plan for back-book indexing, and then connected me with some peer mentoring work. My various new employers worked with me in managing my freakouts, helped me work out subroutines to compensate for my difficulties with executive function and thinking on my feet, and salved my eroded self-esteem by helping me to discern and work with my sometimes elusive abilities. I discovered skills, in particular certain offbeat people skills, I had let myself be convinced were beyond me. I discovered new lines of work.

As I gained confidence and perspective into the many shades of autism, I became a little less strident in my “message,” so I was able to start “educating” not only people in the autism community, but those who had known me before I “was autistic.” For the first time ever, people valued my opinion and experience enough to ask me to give presentations. This helped me to overcome my worst phobia–besides dropping, spilling and losing things–that of public speaking.

I am finding a place in the autism community, just in time to escape from an increasingly lean-and-mean business arena that is being downsized and outsourced. I am hoping to help build a refuge for those of us who don’t speak the corporate dog-eat-dog lingo. Wish me luck on this one.

Mary-Minn Sirag

 


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Developing a cultural understanding of autism. June 6, 2004

In August of 2000 I met my first fellow autists, at KindTree’s autism retreat. My memory flashed on friends who probably had been struggling with autism their entire lives but didn’t know it. I say “struggling” because living with autism without an autism community is like living undercover in an alien culture.

My first autism retreat, where I was invited to speak about my autism, was a spiritual awakening for me. I was phobic of public speaking. Being an exhibitionist and show-off did not make me a public speaker. Though I had acted and sung solos from second grade through college, I could not speak coherently in a group situation.

My first talk is veiled by a merciful amnesia. I think I rambled and derailed a lot. Keeping on track while keeping going--and in real-time, no less--was next to impossible for me back then. Steve Brown, who was KindTree’s president back then, had the sagacity to facilitate it the following year, which made for a better talk.

Even more profound than my debut into public speaking was meeting those first autists. I felt a telepathic kinship with all the autists there, except one little boy who was having difficulties.

Like many “new” autists, I was nervous about being around “low functioning” autists. Though, unlike many “higher functioning” autists, I don’t remember being afraid of being lumped in with the “lower functioning” ones, I wondered if I’d know what to do with or say to them. I feared most being excluded for not being autistic enough! I was to learn later that I was not the only “new” autist to see myself as uniquely “higher-functioning” and to hold inordinate stock in my level of “functioning.”

What struck me during that retreat was not how “high-functioning” I am in my hyper-verbosity, but how variously functioned each of us is, in our human complexity. (And that goes for normies as well as auties.) What matters more than such measurables as IQ and “skill set” are self-awareness and ability--and willingness--to advocate for oneself.

I have become friends with other autists in KindTree’s autism support group, which I have been attending for the past four years. This support group is the first one I have ever been able to stand, let alone derive any nourishment from, both during and between meetings. It is crucial to have a good facilitator, to keep discussion flowing. I find the camaraderie of a good support group crucial to coming to terms with any predicament or condition.

Before KindTree, I had always craved community but become too disgusted and disillusioned with group dynamics (“politics” I called it) to swing it. KindTree not only tolerated my tweakiness but embraced me through my freakouts and shut downs. This was the first group of people who could work through conflict in a spirit of kind-hearted adventurousness.

Through my involvement with KindTree, I landed various human-service joblets -- teaching beading to adults with developmental disabilities, conducting workshops for Voc. Rehab. clients, and working with kids and adults on the spectrum. Through helping these folks learn to accommodate their disabilities and to advocate for themselves, I started to learn to adminster to myself, as well. I started to see some of my indelible “character flaws” as faulty solutions to my cognitive and sensory scrambling. I am learning to apply my logic to these difficulties of mine.

I had always wanted to be useful without being exploited and taken for granted, but got precious few strokes for my efforts until I got involved with KindTree and then the autism community. Part of this is that prior to KindTree, much of my time was focused on things that were next to impossible for me--my disabilities, as it were--not on my talents. My self-esteem was so eclipsed by these seemingly insurmountable shortcomings that I was hard-pressed to see any talent in myself.

Since becoming involved in KindTree and in other reaches of the autism community, I have been learning how to work around my limitations and better exploit what abilities I do have. I am developing a cultural understanding of autism.


March 2004

(Personal stories about autism. If you would like to see your musings on this page, please email Mary-Minn at sirag@mindspring.com.)

coming to terms with autism

When I was five, I vowed no longer to be autistic. My momentous decision took place in kindergarten, during the Christmas pageant. Though I was nonverbal at age 3, when the pediatrician advised my mother to institutionalize me and cut her losses, I must have fully understood what he was telling her well enough to be ashamed of the dreaded "a" word two years later.

For the next forty years, my autism was a dirty secret I divulged, almost as a passing afterthought, to only my closest friends and, much later, to parents of newly diagnosed kids.

People they told either said I was making it up, since I am not only verbal, but loquacious; or they felt vindicated in their suspicions that I really am a little off.

Whenever I alluded to my autism, it was always in the past tense. That is not to say that I didn’t secretly devour what little I could dig up about my "former" condition, as a part of me must have known that autism doesn’t just evaporate.

My third grade teacher must have known I was autistic, though. She tried to control my disruptive behavior by having her teacher’s pet reward my rare instances of "good" behavior with gifts of pom-pom birds. I resented her condescending special treatment, though I liked the birds. Horrid though my "bad" behavior must have been, I was not being rebellious; I couldn’t help it.

I preferred my parents’ approach of punishing me. At least, they weren’t singling me out as defective.

I did not know how most of my problems were due to the insidious pervasiveness of my autism. I erected work-arounds, which enabled me to snow my way through secondary school and college. Even though I crashed on jobs when forced to multi-task or shift attention too much, I somehow managed to keep enough people fooled to stay afloat until my mid 40s, when health problems tipped the precarious balance.

It was about then that a local massage therapist, to whom I had confided my condition, told me about KindTree, and foisted me upon them. My involvement with KindTree forced me to come to terms with being chronically autistic.

The following years have been a dialectic of coming to terms with this condition. In my own personal development I see parallels to the civil rights movements that have been unfolding in my lifetime.

I see my long period of denial as my "Uncle Tom phase."

When I started to "come out," I was afraid I’d have as little in common with other autists as with every other group. Having researched what I had seen as my "former" condition, I had an intelligent lay person’s grasp of it. However, actually meeting other autists for the first time, at KindTree’s 2000 Retreat, inspired and taught me way more. It was a spiritual experience.

After a period of personally identifying with my condition, I segued into an even more obnoxious period of wanting to prove how relatively "high-functioning" I was for having conned the world into taking me for no more than an eccentric neurotic person. During high-functioning interludes, I would wonder whether my autism was "serious" enough even to count, and felt guilty for making such a big deal out of such a trivial condition.

As I met more fellow autists and found out more about "my" condition, I then went into a blessedly brief "Black Power" phase of identifying almost exclusively with other autists--and nobody else. It took an unpleasant interaction with one or two of my "own kind" to realize that I am no more a product of this "group" as any other one.

Meantime, as I became more involved in the autism community , my autistic shortcomings started to re-emerge with a vengeance: my freakouts; difficulty with planning, organizing and changing focus; face-blindness. I then knew I am not an inadvertently fraudulent autist.

I am starting to grieve my autistic limitations--the painful dichotomy between my intelligence and talents and my functional limitations. I sometimes find myself desperately seeking some ancillary mental illness to blame my problems on. In more positive moments, I try to figure out ways to outsmart it.

Mary-Minn Sirag

 


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A weird autistic sensorium by Mary-Minn Sirag - September, 2003

Every so often, I find myself whiffing the underside of my elbow and the back of my hand, checking in with my nose to make sure I don’t smell too off. Sometimes, I exhale heavily onto my hand, to make sure my breath isn’t too rank. I try to have at least some sweet smelling lotion on hand.

At age 24, I got fired from a Baskin Robbins for subtly (I thought) rubbing my fingers against my under arm and sniffing them on a steamy summer day to make sure my deodorant was still working. I don’t remember my conclusion, just that I was fired shortly thereafter, for that plus a medley of other autistic faux-pas.

I am presently marooned "between" protective scents. Like the glamour girl who cannot leave home without a full mask of makeup, I¹m feeling mighty naked. Today, I spent a good hour squeezing and pouring testers at a local health food in a vain and desperate quest for a hand lotion I had recently discovered but whose name I can’t remember. My holy grail is the security blanket of the perfect scent.

This almost Platonic olfactory ideal has always been a moving target for me, especially after a recent illness, when my sense of smell skewed nastily into the greener reaches of the color wheel, which, unlike its painterly counterpart, turns out to have its complement in the innocent periwinkle reaches. My predilections have shifted from Chinese red (amber paste, Guerlain’s Mitsuko and Jicky, an elusive Italian perfume called Cobra) back to the innocent periwinkles of my early childhood (Elizabeth Arden¹s Blue Grass, Nina Ricci¹s l¹Air du Temps, Fleurs du Rocaille, a dime-store Muguet des Bois).

My synesthesia envelopes every sense of mine. I even thank it for my orthographic and alphabetic knack. I wonder how many other autists are synesthetes. I can identify scores of classic perfumes by smell, even recall them in my imagination, decades after having smelled them. The coloristic and instrumental accompaniment supplied by my synesthetic imagination no doubt helps.

I just wish I could extend these synesthesiae to procedures and other sequential information, faces, locations in space and other visual things, for which I am downright aphasic. Though we autists tend to share a concrete processing style, the foci of our apocryphally Rainman-ian eidetic memories differs from autist to autist as radically as from one "neuro-typical" person to the next.

Though I cannot recognize a face until I have met or--even better--seen a picture of someone six or so times, there are entire symphonies and piano concertos that I can whistle from start to finish; likewise with scents and flavors, which I not only can recognize but conjure up in my head decades later. I process a perfume much as I do a symphony.

Much as I love a good rose, not all comes up roses for this persnickety Nose of mine. For one, the smell of franchise fast-food not only nauseates me, but hangs around in my olfactory bulb for a good 24 hours, often perseverating into a crescendo of caustic migraines. Probably the most phobic smell--besides a plague-infested battlefield, perhaps--is the acrid stench of "buttered" popcorn at chain cinemas.

I know a young girl with autism who is phobic of ketchup breath! The Japanese describe Americans as "butakusai", which means "stinking of butter". When I first learned this word, while working at a Japanese trading company in San Francisco, I felt validated that I’m not the only olfactory paranoiac out there! I have found ketchup breath, among other things quintessentially American, to be very "butakusai".

All my senses are at least somewhat tweaky. It took me until the age of 12 or 13 years, for instance, to know when I was sick. I usually had to collapse in a faint or throw up in the middle of class--or freak out or melt down for no apparent reason. I don¹t think that this was entirely because I was sick so much of the time, though that might have been a contributing factor. I think there was no little sensory processing confusion going on in whatever part of the brain is supposed to alert the rest of the body of such an event.

I remember several instances of somebody’s finally having figured out that I was sick, and what an "aha" experience this imparted to my fever enfeebled intellect, in retrospect. My passion for playing "the sleeping game" and my uncharacteristic indifference to chocolate, my all-time drug of choice, suddenly made sense to me.

My mother tells me that I rarely cried as an infant, even when I was hungry. I spent my early infancy staring at the ceiling, whimpering softly when, as one of my mother’s friends ascertained, my stomach was hurting. (Lest you mothers wax too envious of mine’s good fortune at having begotten such a little angel, rest assured that my 18th month of such enviable babyhood ushered in a new apocalypse of either shrieking and throwing things, and rocking back and forth in a catatonic stupor.)

My early indifference to food evolved into exquisite pickiness. I gagged on cereal and rice. I abhorred all spices besides salt and pepper. I was forced to overcome my pickiness about food by embracing an ever widening variety of foods, simply because I grew up in the Middle East, where mashed potatoes and homemade dumplings were hard to come by, and grains, which I have never liked, were even more central than they are in the States. (I still haven’t embraced grains wholeheartedly, partly, it turns out, because I can digest so few of them.) I was 12 years old before I’d touch rice--and then only the Basmati variety--or garlic.

I remember being so phobic of garlic that my mother threatened to rub it on my fingers to deter me from devouring my nails and some of my fingertips, for added zest.

I remember being particularly phobic of cilantro and coriander, and of cinnamon in any non-sweets’ context. Since proudly overcoming these phobias, I made all these ingredients into cornerstones of subsequent cooking obsessions. The same love-hate thing applies to other kinds of fear I have managed to conquer, such as swimming. I wonder whether the same holds true for neuro-typical folks.

Onto music: A teenage friend of mine, who has Aspergers, shrieks, winces and plugs his ears desperately whenever he hears any female voice singing. I doubt very much this is a sexist prejudice, as this young man harbors no other aversion toward girls and women. Furthermore, I remember the sound of any female vocalist having the same effect on me through my teens, until I trained myself consciously to appreciate a wider variety of music. My prejudice was especially galling, since I had been inflicting my female singing voice since age one.

My early music taste was overly refined. I would positively shrivel whenever I heard any note sung or played off-key, or the wrong note or rhythm sung or played. It affected me much as sirens, jackhammers and motorcycles do, bypassing my ear and going right into my pain center. It mattered naught that I probably was missing my vocal and harmonica aim more than occasionally! Just like my young friend, I would plug my ears forcefully and wince whenever anybody else messed up.

In elementary school, I liked only the Beatles and Gilbert and Sullivan operettas, the latter probably only because I got to sing Yum Yum, Little Buttercup and Josephine. My only salvation from my claustrophobic narrowness was that I would periodically "burn out" "my" composers by over bingeing, which left me utterly devoid of salve for my music-parched spirit.

These burn-outs forced me to venture forth into new territory. My middle-aged taste is much more varied, which provides insurance against finding myself marooned between musical binges.

I still have singers and composers I cannot stand, though, as does any autist worth his or her salt. Barbra Streisand, Benjamin Britten and Gregorian chants come to mind, though I am confident that I am suppressing my awareness of whole other genres that propel my finger to the "off" button of my many radios. The closest I have come to liking Barbra is my deep appreciation for Patti Smith, which though no ceegar is a start. When I can tolerate a whole side of Funny Girl, I’ll know the time has come for me to start imparting my sensory integra tion wisdom to other music-fussy autists.

 


Autism Forum Summary June, 2003

Our second Autism Forum took up where our last year’s first Autism Forum left off. (Please see Autism Community resource list here)

The first panel, entitled "Post-Measure-28 Budget Cuts and Revenue Projects: Affects on the Autism Community" was a rally cry to
political action.

Margaret  Theisen, the director of Full Access Brokerage, explained how FAB was created  to provide services to adult clients whose wait-
listing  for up to a decade had  led to the Staley Lawsuit. She said that funding cuts have forced FAB not only to turn away new clients  but to
waitlist until 2007 all clients slated to receive services in July. She dubbed Governor Kulongoski and the House the best "advocacy pressure
points."

Lynn Greenwood, the director of Lane Developmental Disability Services, said that the  budget cuts have increased case manager’s  case
loads while providing  less money for training. She said that Lane D.D.S. may be losing the family support program. She reminded parents
and educators that IDEA is not just a good idea, it’s the law.

Of the General Fund, 9.5 percent goes to Lane County government, which hasn’t grown in the past 20 years, despite large population increas-
es. She mentioned an equalization lawsuit that would even out tax-based differences in services.

Kitty Piercy, a former state representative, serves on the Lane County Commission of Children and Families, and chairs the Oregon Commis-
sion for Childcare. She also co-chaired Yes on 28, which passed in Lane County. Portland is trying to pass a similar tax measure. Piercy rec-
ommended the Family Advisory Committee for advocates.

She urged her audience to pressure Rep. Pat Farr, who is part of the Lane County delegation. He needs more than just to "feel deeply," she
said.

County Commissioner Peter Sorenson worked as a state senator with Kitty Piercy. In July, he said, 97 Lane County government workers will
be laid off; 47 of those are in public and mental health. This represents a bigger hit than other departments.

The second panel, entitled “New Developments in Brain Research, Interventions and Behavioral Management for Autism Spectrum
Disorder" explored non-pharmaceutical interventions for autists.

Dr. Bove is a Eugene naturopath who practices the DAN! protocol, allergy testing and chelation. He has been practicing naturopathic medi-
cine for the past 11 years, and the DAN! protocol for a few years. Dr. Bove tests for and then treats allergies, parasites, viruses, yeast over-
growth, and heavy metal accumulations. He chelates with DMPS, botanical agents and DMSA.

Dr. Leslie Carter is a Tigard-based therapist  who has done a lot of work in rehabilitation and neuropsychology.  She started out in pain man-
agement, but  now treats PTSD, as well. She has an autistic child, so she has found herself working  increasingly  with autists and their fami-
lies. She teaches autists to decipher nonverbal games and cues. As she puts it, autists "need to become dopamine junkies and to bond with
emotional memories."

Carter is on the diagnostic team for the O.H.S.U.‘s secretin project. Her approach supplements biomedical techniques. She finds bio-feed-
back most useful for adolescents and adults.

She sees emotional dysregulation as a root of the phobias and horror of surprises  afflicting autists. She cited Steve Gutstein as a new pioneer
in behavioral interventions. His approach, called Relationship Development Intervention,  teaches nonverbal games to help autists learn flexi-
bility and to focus more on relationship than objects.

Benjamin Bell, L.M.T., performs cranial sacral therapy, which aligns the skull plates in order to help regulate the flow of cerebral-spinal flu-
id. He has found cranial sacral therapy helpful for people with neurological and behavioral problems, as well as those with skull abnormali-
ties such as flat heads and osseous lesions, 75 percent of which are below the ears, he said. He said that five minutes of pressure can shut off
a nerve.

Rhonda Way  teaches a weekly sign language (modified American Sign Language) class  at Bridgeway House to kids in the autism spectrum
and another one to adults and parents of autists who want to teach it to their kids. She said that babies on and off the spectrum start talking
months earlier if their parents start them off in sign language. Sign language is especially helpful for children with verbal communication
problems. Verbal and hearing students  too enjoy improved communication skills. Kids in all walks of the autism spectrum learn to make
more appropriate eye contact. Sign language enhances artistic expression, also.

The third panel, on “Dignity, Self-Determination and Independence: How to Maintain During These Uncertain Times”, was a rally for
self-determination and empowerment of people in the autism spectrum, along with all people with developmental disabilities. Rick Newton
said, "there is no such thing as a behavior problem, just uneven self-advocacy." Pam Ring, the director of The Arc of Lane County, said that
she started out "advocating for people who [could] not speak for themselves, but found that they can speak for themselves."  Molly Elliott,
the program director for City of Eugene’s Specialized Recreation Division, described her programs at Hilyard Community Center, which in-
clude day trips to fun and scenic destinations, holiday parties, arts and crafts and cooking classes, parties, friendship groups, and yoga class-
es. The Center also hosts many of KindTree’s events.
The fourth panel covered “New Developments in the Autism Community: Alternative Supports, Support Groups and
Schools”. Susan Parks and Dawn Stahlberg from Autism Training and Support created an autism classroom at Hamlin Middle School in
Springfield. This sensory based program teaches the kids to self-regulate their nervous systems. The first and last periods eases the transition
from home to bus to school--and vice versa--and to fill out their check-off lists or do homework. It also is a refuge. The class works on so-
cialization skills, giving the students a an opportunity to  relax and have fun together.

Cheryl Nel Applegate, a case worker at Lane DDS, facilitates KindTree’s monthly autism support group. She talked about the friendships
and camaraderie that have blossomed in the three years since the group got together. The group came  up with a long list of topics, one of
which it discusses every month.

Nan Lester, who started the Asperger Advocacy Coalition, talked about  how the Coalition has returned  to being a support group for parents
of kids with Asperger¹s. For a while, she said, the group was hosting a long series of guest speakers. AAC will be hosting a Temple Grandin
conference in October.

Pat Wigney, the director of Bridgeway House, talked about Bridgeway’s mission to house a "trauma team" for parents whose kids have just
been branded "autistic" and a host of professionals working with autists. These could include doctors and naturopaths; occupational, dance
and art therapy;  classes; an autism library; resource referral; support groups. Pat conceived her brainchild last summer; it was born in Octo-
ber in her living room.

Tim Mueller of KindTree offered to begin a discussion on how to create an autism network organization here in Lane County. People were
enthusiastic, and I expect we’ll hear more about this idea as time goes by.

It was a great Forum. Look for it again next year!  Mary-Minn

 


From the Inside Edge

This is part of an ongoing series of articles written by people with autism spectrum disorder about our condition. Please submit your articles to me at sirag@mindspring.com